(Closed) nobody cares about our wedding but me.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I can relate. My mom doesnt want me to get married till I’m at least 25, so she doesnt like talking about it at all. FI’s mom is about as detached from it as possible. Fiance is at least excited with me.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m so sorry you’ve got the wedding blues. :/ Hang in there, it’ll pass!

As a side note, is the date listed correct, you’re getting married in September?

Girl you’ve got AGES for invites. Generally you shouldn’t send them out more than 2-3 months in advance… otherwise everyone sees how far out the deadline is and ends up procrastinating and forgetting to RSVP.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’ve got to agree with not sending the invites out ASAP. If you’re getting married in September, mail them in July. However, that you want to get them out ASAP also speaks that you’re just anxious and no one else is because well, it’s still 9 months from now. That’s a LONG time for most folks.

To be quite honest, my mother JUST now (like in the last 72 hours) got all excited about my wedding. It’s my wedding, so it’s important to me. For everyone else, it’s an event they have to attend, kind of like going to the grocery store. My fiance is even less enthused. He wants his weekly to do list, he works on it diligently and then he feels like he’s done unless I ask him to do something else.

Did he want to look at invites with me? Nope. He didn’t care. What did he care about? Just make sure all the information is there. I came up with the wording, he proofread it for me, changed some wording here and there and low and behold, when they were delivered and I showed him one, he hadn’t even LOOKED at the design. In fact, he couldn’t tell you what they looked like today. LOL

Most people want to know when to show up and what time. The little details are yours.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@bretonvirgniia:  It’s perfectly normal to send out save-the-dates that early, just not the invitations. πŸ™‚

On your save-the-date, you usually just put the city anyway, not the name of the actual venue. So even if you don’t know *exactly* where the wedding is gonna be, as long as you know the general area, you should be all good to send out STDs!

Post # 12
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@bretonvirgniia:  

The venue is a little detail for them. It’s HUGE for you. I’ve got no idea whether or not he liked the invites. I asked him if he ever looked at the design or the paper and he said no, I didn’t. I didn’t say another word about it. It’s really not that important that he does. They’re already paid for. Whether he likes them of not, they’re going out.

Today I went and bought dresses for my flower girl and junior bridesmaids. I haven’t even asked him if he wanted to see them. He asked where I was, I said I went to go buy dresses for the girls, he said OK. Does he care what they look like? Nope. He’s a man. They don’t care.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have complete support from Fiance.  it is OUR wedding afterall.  but not really too much interest from the older folks in our family (parents etc).  They seem kind of baffled that you actually have to plan a wedding these days.  they always say,”oh we just ran to the bakery and said we need a wedding cake.”  or “We eloped.”  I suspect they did plan and they”re just not in that mindset anymore, don”t really see it as very exciting anymore.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@bretonvirgniia:  I’ve never heard of someone using a STD to RSVP before. I’m not *exactly* sure what you mean by an informal RSVP.

Usually you send out a STD so that people can make plans in advance, book flights, etc- basically it means they’re getting an invitation later, so they should plan accordingly.

Usually people RSVP no later than a month before the wedding, and then you have enough time to pass along the final head count to your venue/caterer. Are you wanting your guests to RSVP sooner?

The only problem with asking for an earlier RSVP deadline is that some people may not know for sure if they’ll be able to attend or not until closer to the date.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@dmk90716:  

What I don’t think you understand is that he doesn’t CARE where it’s held. At the end of the day, he wants to marry you. Make it happen the way you want it to be. They aren’t going to care.

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