(Closed) Nobody ever told me how difficult picking a date is…

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What date should we choose??
    12/31/13 NYE : (11 votes)
    28 %
    February 2014 : (4 votes)
    10 %
    April 2014 : (6 votes)
    15 %
    May 2014 : (18 votes)
    46 %
    Other/Comment : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    3417 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    I vote May. If you always dreamed of a May wedding than go for it. There is always going to be a holiday, or birthday, or graduation or whatever the same month you pick. You just have to deal with that. However, I suggeat staying away from big holidays like NYE, Valentine’s, Halloween, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas and Memorial and Labor Days. Basically any holiday where kids go out dressed up or people travel. It just gets to be a big mess with people not coming because they already have plans.

    Post # 4
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m assuming you’re having an indoor wedding? Since the weather is going to be so crazy during the months you’re thinking of I would go with NYE. I think its a fun day. Although I don’t know how bad the weather gets up there.. I’m in the south, really mild here. If you think its too bad my second vote is for the may wedding you’ve always wanted.

    I feel you on the long engagement. We’re waiting for 2014 too. My best friend is getting married next fall and we want a fall wedding too so.. we wait. lol plus we have to save up for ourselves and want longer to save..

    good luck! πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
    6 posts

    I totally understand what your Mom is saying about May however if you always envisioned getting married in May then I say do what you would like. I know it’s humid and hot in Illinois is July but I want an outdoor wedding in July. Guests won’t mind when it is. As far as your long engagement, my Aunt recently married after being engaged for 18 years…so it could be worse. Good Luck!

    Post # 6
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I chose May. I know you’re worried about a long engagement, but it’s already almost 2013 now!  That’s actually less than a year and a half away!  My SO’s cousin and his fiancee went through the same thing, they got engaged in August 2010, and finally settled on June 2012.  I was talking to them the other day, and they mentioned how quick it flew by, and they’re so glad for the longer engagement.  They had more time to plan, and save money.  They actually just bought a house too, so that helped greatly.

    I may be biased because I want a May wedding, but I think it’s absolutely the perfect time of the year.  No snowstorms or usually no crazy weather, the flowers are just starting to bloom, the air is still crisp but not too cold.  Plus you said you’ve always dreamed of a May wedding. If you do it the first week of May, it won’t be around Mother’s Day or graduations, so no need to worry about that.


    Post # 7
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Close your eyes and pick!! JK. I llove the NYE but keep in mind if you have kids you will forever have trouble with a sitter on your anniversary and it will forever shares shared date with well the world. Feb 2014 is a busy month. A lot of vendors don’t give discounts because it is the month of LOVE every thing marked up. ( trust mey anniversary is in feb and my renewal is feb2014)


    I like May because you clearly like may and believe me that won’t feel like a long engagement! It can take several months just to get invites and Save-The-Date Cards just right and in the mail. Because if you start now you may be able to get some early bird deals and have timtime work slowly but surly toawards making things perfect. April is nice too. But pick a date you love, you have to live with it! Don’t succomb to peer or mom pressure talk to Fiance and make a call, don’t over think it. And once you pick it don’t discuss it again!!!! It’s done, BC because the world will want YOUR wedding to fit their life… Good luck 

    Post # 10
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We decided in aug to renew our vows in 2014 thinking its SOOO much time we only have 420 days I think I’m starting to think its not enough time. 

    Post # 11
    4126 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Could you not do earlier in 2013, like this coming May?  It’s 5 months away, just enough time to plan and wouldn’t be a long engagement.  Though choices for vendors would be limited. Otherwise I’d do February, which is pretty long anyway, nice time of year too.

    Post # 12
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We found that the vendors that offered an off-season discount offered it November – April, and I’m in a slightly warmer area than you.

    Only you know yourself, but I honestly would freak out in February about people traveling if weather was bad. Also depends how far your guest are coming from.

    We opted for April after taking all those sorts of things into consideration, so I vote for April πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I dunno. My fiance and I sat on the sofa with our cell phones in hand. We said what date is (his son’s) spring break XXX – what date is (my son’s) spring break. Well there isn’t a time where the boys are going to be off together, so let’s just pick a date and we did. Right smack dab in between both spring breaks.

    Others have always said that date is inconvenient for one reason or another. My response has been so what? Don’t come because the date isn’t changing.

    Post # 14
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I was between February 2014 and NYE 2013. I think winter weddings can be so beautiful with snow. The thing about May is that it would be gorgeous if you had nice weather, but there is probably a decent chance or rain (or even snow again) where I live. At least with winter you kind of know what to expect. Since NYE was my second choice because it would be an insanely fun party, I’d pick that since it’s like ‘the one that got away’ to me. πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I say May- mainly because you dreamed of a May wedding. I was so excited when my venue told me they had a June date open (at the same price) because I remembered always dreaming of being a June bride!

    You are having an indoor wedding but seriously, it is no fun traveling in the snow! My friend had her wedding in Feb of 2010 on Long Island, NY. There was a giant blizzard two days before her wedding. It was terrible! People were slipping on the ice outside the venue, driving was a nightmare, and we were freezing just running 50ft from the car to the hotel for the after party! She even said “I’m an idiot for getting married in February”. And that’s NY not MN. You don’t want to be worried about snow, ice, plowing, etc on your wedding day.

    Btw- I have a 22 month engagement, it’s long but I can get everything done ahead of time and not have to stress πŸ™‚


    ETA: Look at wedding dates after Mother’s day. Flower prices are way higher before Mother’s Day.

    Post # 16
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    NYE!!! NYE weddings look so fun! I wish I would have thought of that since we get together with all our friends for NYE anyway and counting down to the new year with your new husband surrounded by everyone you love and care about would be the best new years ever! Plus you could always have a big way to celebrate your anniversary in the futue.

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