Post # 1
This is just to be fun, I hope no one takes offense to it. But I think it’d be fun to make a master list of crappy favors, gifts, etc that frankly NOBODY WANTS. I think it’s so hard to buy good gifts (for bridesmaids in particular) because so many stores tell you THIS UGLY THING IS A BRIDESMAID GIFT. When, in a regular context you would never buy these things for your friends. But because it’s “wedding” you feel the need to buy random (excuse my language) crap.
1. Bath and Body Works lotions, soaps, etc. I’m sorry – I just hate this crap. Didn’t we grow out of it in 7th grade? If you want to buy bath products for a friend go to Sephora or a nice store and buy high-end products.
2. Cheap jewelry. (Or jewelry that looks cheap, I’ve seen plenty of affordable jewelry that looks nice)
3. “Bridesmaid” tote bags, mugs, water bottles, etc. Ain’t nobody want to carry around something that say’s “bridesmaid” after the wedding.
4. Favors – anything that has the bride + grooms name all over it.
On the flip side, we can also add some good ideas to this list to help everyone out!
Post # 2
And just so this post isn’t all negative nancy, here are some nice alternatives.
A lovely but affordable necklace.
A cute clutch/purse your girls will actually wear.
A nice bath set.
Post # 3
I really can’t stand koozi wedding favors. I can only drink one (or two if I double fist it) beer at a time, so if I get one more lame personalized koozi I’m going to go crazy!
Post # 4
I can’t stand favors with the couple’s name and wedding date on it.
Post # 5
-Agreed about anything with the wedding date/names/location on it.
-Anything with a specific “purpose” (paper weights, magnets, picture frames, key rings, etc, no one needs more junk, and especially not junk they didn’t choose to have on their own, multiply this by a million if it also has a monogram/date/whatever on it).
-Anything with a “cute” rhyme or saying on it, just don’t. You can turn perfectly acceptable cookies or lemoncello into something tacky with one cutesy pinterest rhyme.
-Anything that requires that I take care of it or that can make a mess (pets, plants).
So pretty much anything except food, I’m not a fan of favors in general they’re too “children’s birthday party” for weddings in my opinion and I can’t wait for this trend to die.
Post # 6
LadyAprill: That was totally going to be what I put.
My master list is anything that includes the couples name and wedding date that is supose to last. I will barely decorate with my own wedding date. Coozies being perhaps the most annoying.
Close second is something that is an inside joke to the couple or the couple and a few friends. I won’t be in on all of the jokes.
Anything that I’m supose to use to write in a madlibs or a “speical wish” for the couple. I just am not that creative. If you want my speical wish, it’s on the card I have given you, that I took time to write out before coming to your wedding.
Post # 7
JrzyGurl: +1 for favors with the bride and groom’s name on it and bridesmaid’s gifts with “bridesmaid” on it. Although if the favors are edible and the box/wrapper/label had the bride and groom’s name on it, I think that’s totally fine.
Post # 8
– Anything with the couple’s name/wedding date/or the word “wedding”/”bridesmaid”/etc. on it
– Those tiny picture frames
– Paper weights (I work indoors, my paper is not going to blow away)
– Anything in hot pink or worse hot pink zebra (I have some bridal shower/bachelorette party mementos that clearly were given to me forgetting that I’m not a teenaged girl)
– Anything I can’t eat or drink
Post # 9
Coasters. NOBODY wants coasters.
Post # 10
I hate all plastic and trinket favors. They’re cheap junk that I’m just going to throw out.
I’m totally good with food favors though. Little chocolates, candy (except Jordan almonds), caramels and cookies all make me happy.
Post # 11
JrzyGurl: matchy robes, shirts with Bridesmaid on it, anything with wedding date/name on it
In general, I have issue with matching BM gifts. It just rubs me the wrong way. Each BM is an individual and have different tastes so don’t buy me wine because everybody gets wine (because I don’t like wine!). You know?
Post # 12
I once got little plastic toys that were from the bride and grooms childhood. I thought it was a cute idea, but they went right into a landfill unfortunately since we didn’t even want to waste the suitcase space to bring them back and they couldnt’ be donated since they were a choking hazard. I’ve gotten some pretty nice BM gifts except for one wedding where the jewelry was so cheap and horrificly ugly I wouldn’t have even worn it as a teenager! Not that I expect gifts, I just feel bad that I won’t ever be using it afterwards.
Post # 13
A single wine glass with anything painted on it. My name, your name, Bridesmaid, wedding date… Who wants a single non-matching wine glass? You want me to drink alone? 🙁
Post # 14
vip0802: agreed–bride/groom name/date totally fine if you can eat it. The problem with personalized stuff is when you have to keep it. Nobody wants to decorate their house with your wedding logo. I see no problem with a cute saying on a cookie package with their name though.
A good rule for the couple is to think “what are people going to do with this?” If the answer is “I have no idea” or “set it somewhere” they’re heading in the wrong direction.
Mostly though, just keep your guests in mind. Some friend groups LOVE koozies and it’s a big hit. We aren’t in that group.
Post # 15
Oh yes, the painted single wine/martini glass! I’ve gotten one of those – it says “girls’ night” and there is a painted woman in a little black dress. WHAT on earth am I going to do with that? We’re not in college. Our bar is a china hutch. Also, what kind of girls’ night has just me alone drinking with my sad painted glass? Any gift that forgets that I have a family and we kind of like using adult things that match is bad in my books.