- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I have two friends who are very important to me but are not in my wedding. As much as I care about them and enjoy being with them, I have grown much closer over the years to the girls in my bridal party.
To these “non-bridesmaid” friends, the fact that they’re not in my wedding might come as a shock because they always consider us to be “best friends.” Again, I think they’re wonderful but I really feel confident in picking my closest friends/family as bridesmaids.
I’m thinking about writing these women a letter, just to let them know I really do value their friendship but that I have grown closer to the ladies in my bridal party. I don’t want to lose their friendship, and I hope they know that they’re very special to me. The decision was a difficult one!
Do you think this could come across the wrong way? I want them to feel genuinely valued because they are. I don’t want to feel pitied.
Do you think I should write them a letter? How would you feel? If you think I should write the letter, what should it say?
Also, I’m out of state so face-to-face might not work and I’m not a fan of a phone conversation for this. I’d rather carefully write a letter so I tell them thoughtfully and meaningfully that I care for them.
Any advice would be appreciated!