(Closed) Non-bridesmaid invited to bachelorette question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrookeBQ:  I would just be as honest as possible with her and hopefully she will understand especially considering you are planning your own wedding. 🙂 

Post # 4
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re a student.  Tell her you are honored to be invited, but you have an important test/paper/group assignment that weekend to prepare for.

 

if you use money as the excuse, she may spring to do halfsies for you….

 

Post # 6
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrookeBQ:  even if it is a long weekend you can use that as an excuse….or….do you have a pt job?  You could just say you’re working all weekend.

 

normally, I don’t promote lying, but in cases like these where telling the truth would only potentially hurt someone’s feelings I think it’s ok.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrookeBQ:  Do you know her friends? It sounds like you wouldn’t so add that to the excuses (because it’s probably true), “Thanks for asking me but I won’t know anyone else there, plus it’s expensive”. EDIT: “plus you know I don’t like to drink”

I don’t advocate lying because you could get caught out. (e.g. you visit a friend and get tagged on facebook)

Post # 9
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrookeBQ:  then just say that!

 

“Thanks for the invite, but I just can’t swing it.”

Post # 12
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I probably wouldn’t give a reason. I would just say “That’s so kind of you to invite me but I don’t think I can make it. I can’t wait for the wedding though! Let me know if you need anything.”

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrookeBQ:  Yeah I skipped my (5 years younger) sister’s bachelorette party (or hens’ night as we call them here) for the same reason. Did I really want a rare night out to hang out with a bunch of girls I don’t know? Fortunately I also had a newborn so that excuse was enough. Little did she know I went to a friend’s bachelorette party (well part of it) when my first was a newborn. 🙂

Post # 14
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrookeBQ:  you’re overthinking this.

 

its a destination bachelorette party.  The bride must know tht there will be girls who decline just due to the money.  I’m sure she won’t think badly of you for politely declining.

 

offer to go out to lunch with her if the guilt keeps eating away at you…but honestly, I would probably decline it as well.

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