Post # 1
I am currently going through the RCIA process and I will be Catholic before the wedding. My family is not Catholic (I was raised Methodist) so I am getting nervous they will feel out of place. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas of how I can make my family feel more welcomed? We are doing a nuptial mass as well how about during the Eucharist?
My fiancé and I are having different opinions on the program for the wedding I think we should have everything in the program wording and all but he thinks that we don’t need it. Am I not right on this one?
Post # 3
Darling Husband is not catholic and has only been to one catholic event, which was a wedding. He and the rest of his family had no idea what was going on with the wedding and had no idea what some of the things meant. Personally, I would put them in there to avoid confusion, but I understand why your FH says no, it is all he has ever known so he may not understand there might be a confusion. I would talk to him about it again and maybe with your priest there, it might let him understand more that others do not understand the order or the symbolisms of the catholic mass.
Post # 4
i would definitely put everything in there… otherwise ppl will confused and frustrated for a LONG time (the whole mass)… it will alienate your family who may still trying to grasp the idea of your cnversion… if your fiance’ says no, i might just insist… i feel it’s important to make sure the ppl that are there to support your union don’t feel awkward and utterly lost….
Post # 5
Ask your priest to announce the procedure for receiving a blessing for non-Catholics during Communion. Anyone can receive a blessing. A person simple walks up with everyone else in the Communion line but when he gets to the front, he crosses his arms in front of himself (like you are hugging a big teddy bear to your chest), then the priest will know to perform a two-second blessing.
Post # 6
@mystery00girl00: I’d recommend a full program. As for communion, I had a nuptial Latin Mass. There simply is no option of going up to communion to receive a blessing. What I gave people in their programs the act of spiritual communion. This is a traditional prayer Catholics can say when they need to refrain from going up to communion because they did not observe the one hour fast or because they are not in a state of grace. I said indicated in the program that they could pray it if they were comfortable praying it.
I believe that You
are present in the Most Holy Sacrament.
I love You above all things,
and I desire to receive You into my soul.
Since I cannot at this moment
receive You sacramentally,
come at least spiritually into my heart. I embrace You as if You were already there and unite myself wholly to You. Never permit me to be separated from You. Amen.
Post # 7
We had a similar situation at our wedding. My husband’s family isn’t Catholic while my entire side is Catholic. I made sure to include infomration on where to find the order of the Mass in the misselettes. Most Churches will provide these and all the prayers can be found in there (and with the new translation, some life long Catholics might still need some prompting). I also included information in the program about when to sit/stand/kneel/when and how to give the sign of peace and the procedure for receiving a blessing during Communion. I also think it’s a good idea to ask the priest to explain this procedure as well. We also included music to all of the Mass part songs to have as much participation as possible. It was a long program but ultimately I think it was worth it to help lessen any confusion.