- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
There’s really nothing the planner could do if you didn’t do those things during the actual ceremony, though. What’s she going to do, come running up the aisle yelling at you to kneel?
As for sitting alone, the wedding party goes first, and it doesn’t take that long to get communion. You will sit for 1 minute by yourself max. No one will be paying so much attention to the wedding party that they will notice for more than the time it takes to make the observation.
If you do go up, the blessing isn’t about baptism. Catholics and most Protestant religions have different ideas of how communion becomes the body and blood of Jesus. Catholics believe it becomes the body and blood at the blessing, protestants believe it happens at consumption by a believer. Because it becomes body and blood at consencration, Catholics reserve communion for Catholics.
Yes. I’ve been to weddings in a Catholic Church where several members of the wedding party did not receive communion. I wouldn’t worry about it. The whole process usually only takes a few minutes for a Church full of parishioners. I’m sure you won’t be sitting alone for long, as wedding guests typically don’t fill the Church. Also, I’m sure many other guests will not be Catholic either and not go up for communion.
I was raised Catholic but my other is not Catholic so at church she always just stepped aside while the rest of the pew went up. I can’t remember what she has done for catholic weddings, but I imagine the same thing? The fact that I can’t remember tells you all you need to know – nobody notices or cares if someone skips out on communion.
I’m an atheist and was in 2 catholic weddings for close friends. I chose to receive during one wedding out of feeling awkward and no one noticed or cared. The next one I didn’t feel awkward at all since I knew it wasn’t an issue the first time so I stayed in the pew when everyone else went up to receive. We were in the first row so they were back 30 seconds later. It wasn’t awkward that time either!
Don’t over think it, it’s 5 minutes of your life and for me one of the lesser awkward moments of the cathoic masses I was in for the weddings or throughout the years I was a catholic.
No one will notice. The last wedding I attended that had the full Mass was my cousin’s and both the bridesmaids and one of the groomsmen weren’t Catholic. No one paid attention and did not notice at all. Honestly there is so much attention on the bride and groom that no one will see you not going up for communion. My husband is not Catholic and I am, but we attend a Catholic church. He stays in the pew as I go up and it has never been an issue for him. He definitely isn’t the only one either.
I think that has something to do with this as well. I was born and raised in a denomination that practiced open communion. When I go to Mass with the SO, kids, and the in-laws and need to sit out communion….to me….it’s kind of like if my Mother-In-Law were to invite us all over for Easter but when it comes time for Easter dinner I’m asked to stay in the living room until their done eating.
Not sure if that makes sense.
Thanks for the input so far and the great discussion. It is nice to learn more about the blessing and I’m warming to the idea of going through to receive a blessing rather than staying seated by myself.
A quick follow-up. I ended up being at the end of the pew (on the inside), basically the first person in line. I decided to go up for a blessing so I wouldn’t stand out infront of the rest of the wedding party.
It was pretty easy peasy…..the last time I’ll get a blessing at that church, but easy. That has to do with the message the next being a reminder on how inequal other Christian denominations are to the Catholicism and called members of other denominations “flawed”. That was kind of a downer.
How does a blessing invalidate a baptism?
After a little research, I found out that my baptizm is actually one of two non-Catholic sacraments the Catholic church accepts, so no worries there….it’s all good.
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