(Closed) Non-denominational wedding…?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should I push to have my faith included in the ceremony?
    Yes : (14 votes)
    78 %
    No : (0 votes)
    Keep it non-denominational : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Othere - please explain below : (3 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think a bigger problem here is that you feel like you’ve lost yourself in the wedding.  The wedding should be about both of you, and not just him.  Are there other ways to incorporate your faith that he would be okay with?  Maybe it’s just that handfasting is not for him.  Perhaps you could include a reading that comes from your faith but that all could relate to.

    Post # 4
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    1544 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He should be accepting of your wishes…. If your faith is important to you and you want it included somehow in the ceremony then he should be willing…. especially since you are doing the firefighter theme for him.Compromise in the wedding is key… find another way to incorporate your faith… or a few different options and give him a choice.

    Post # 5
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    There needs to be compromise. If he has taken over the theme, then you should have something “major” that you want. And if it’s important to you (as I’m assuming the firefighter theme was for him), then it should be important to him.

    We’re having a non-demoninational wedding be performed by my Catholic aunt (by marriage), but she’s going to work with us to make the ceremony our own. I’m half-Jewish (on my mother’s side, so technically I’m fully Jewish), and Fiance knows I want the breaking of a glass and we’re going to work that in.

    Post # 6
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    7992 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I’m confused… what is your faith? If you are a pagan, and that is why you want a handfasting, then why is your wedding non-denominational rather than inter-religious? If you are a Christian of a non-Baptist denomination, then how is a handfasting a Christian tradition?

    Maybe if you explain a bit more about your background then people could give you better advice 🙂

    Post # 7
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    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’ve always been a strong believer that a wedding ceremony should reflect both the bride and groom.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We did a handbinding so that it would not offend any of the christians in our family and I still felt like I was able to incorporate me into the ceremony.

    Post # 9
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    1576 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Our ceremony will be an unique mix of Unitarian, Native American and Pagan (Wicca). But everything is kinda subtle. Heck my VERY Catholic Future Mother-In-Law read over ot and didn’t pick up on the Pagan — tee hee!

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I believe he should accomodate your wishes for your wedding just as much as you are accomodating his.  Handfasting is sometimes included in a Wiccan wedding ceremony (which is a lovely practice, IMO) and nothing about it conflicts with any other faith, that I know of.  If he’s not ok with doing a handfasting for your wedding, is he ok with any aspect at all of your faith that he may feel more comfortable incorporating into your ceremony?

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I do not practice religion either, but I think you should include it if it means alot to you. I think a compromise you be made here.

    Post # 12
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    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @rockstarscheld:   I’m not going to vote in the poll.

    I don’t think you should have to “push” to include your faith in the ceremony nor should he just accept essentially what is your change of heart (as he probably sees it).

    I’d actually sit down with him and figure out if it’s just the handfasting that is the issue or would any element of your faith “not be allowed”. If it’s the latter – that would be an issue for me… How is that going to affect the rest of your relationship? You seem to be very accepting of the fact that he doesnt practice his religion (his choice) but how accepting of your faith is he? What happens if either of your views on religions change during the marriage?

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you need to talk to him to see why he’s so against the handfasting. Does he think it’s weird? Is he worried his Baptist family will get mad? Does he just not understand the symbolism? Whatever it is, you need to figure out the root of his issues before proceeding. It’s one thing if he’s afraid his dear aunt Sue might faint in horror and another if he doesn’t respect your choice of religion. And the solutions are totally different.

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