(Closed) Non-diamond e-ring confidence

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Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I cant see your photo but rock it. I have aquamarine in white gold and just got a yellow gold set with red garnet

Post # 17
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - ........

I have only been engaged for a short time, and I can’t tell you how many people have given me a hard time for my e-ring. People have been so conditioned to believe diamonds are the only acceptable stone for an engagement ring and the only way for a man to prove his love is with a diamond. I LOVE unique stones, and to me, diamonds aren’t that unique if everyone has one. if you like your ring, then it doesn’t matter what others think! Be proud of your beautiful, unique ring!! 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

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SomethingBlue1009:  your ring is beautiful! Just ignore what others say. It’s ridiculous when some people think only a diamonda is a true engagement ring. As a matter of fact, way back, rings for engagement were always colored stones! 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

I have to agree with everyone else. If you love your ring, that’s all that matters. 

My ‘stand-in’ engagement ring is a sapphire three stone ring (cushion cut sapphire in a kite setting flanked by two round brilliant white sapphires). I love, love, love it so I don’t feel very self-conscious about it but I know it isn’t the ‘traditional’ ring. Not many people have seen it so I haven’t gotten much crap about it.

However, I used to wear a sapphire halo ring on my left index finger. It wasn’t my engagement ring but I always just said it was so I wouldn’t need to explain what it really was (visible symbol of my relationship that I could look at when things were going badly for me). Everyone thought it was gorgeous and I got a ton of compliments but there was a lot of smugness when it came to women who had or were expecting diamond engagement/wedding rings. Because it wasn’t a diamond, I must be poor and I must be so disappointed in it and look how much nicer our rings are because they’re diamonds! It wasn’t always a verbal thing though I got “Is that your engagement ring?” and shocked looks when I said “Yes” quite often but there was always an air of smugness and condescension. It bothered me a lot in the beginning.

My ‘actual’ engagement ring is a gorgeous three stone moissanite ring. I don’t expect to get much crap about it but you never know. It looks like a diamond, sure, but everyone who has seen it knows it isn’t and I’m sure people will think it’s “too large to be a real diamond” and must be some cheap knockoff.

Yes, my rings are cheap, yes they’re not diamonds, but you know what? They stand for the same thing other women’s do, and maybe more so since they’re not about the ring but about the love, commitment and partnership. Yours is the same so embrace it and just ignore all of the flack that comes your way; you’ve got a gorgeous ring that you love.

/ramblerant

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

I never wanted the traditional diamond. I have a sapphire. No regrets 15 years later. 

Post # 22
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Honey bee

 

Famous gals who got an e-ring with a gemstone and diamond accents:

Clotilde, Princess of Venice and Piedmont = ruby

Lady Diana Spencer = sapphire

Now, Jackie Bouvier (Kennedy) = emerald and diamond, with diamond accents, but, it still wasn’t a center diamond it was a two-stone ring with accents

 

And some famous gals who been given semi-precious gemstones for e-rings include: you, dewingedpixie, PeachSnapple, SportyBee, diamondsforevershine, and, well, the list goes on.

 

Happy nuptials!

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

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SomethingBlue1009:  Thank you xD I tend to be long winded and this has been on my mind for a bit. I’ll probably be meeting a ‘friend’ of mine in the next month and she’s very competitive. Not sure why since no one else plays along but hey, what can you do? She’s one of the ones who LOVED my halo but oh it’s not a diamond and look at her gorgeous diamond! So it should be interesting to see what she thinks of the moissanite.

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ali0118:  That’s a beautiful ring! I’d certainly have no regrets either with something as gorgeous as that.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

With every choice you make, there are consequences. One of the consequences of choosing an unusual engagement ring is receiving rude comments.

I chose an opal ring knowing that I was going to get some nasty comments. Did it bother me, no. The ring we chose was a reflection of us, and I never doubted my choice.

You need to find the strength in yourself to shake off the comments and be confident in your own choice.  

 

 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

Your ring is awesome!…I received rude comments and pitying looks with my first e-ring(garnet in y gold). At the time, I had zero interest in a diamond ring, I wanted color. One acquaintance even told me that my husband (then fiancé) couldn’t possibly be serious about marriage because of my garnet. You just have to ignore the foolishness.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Rock it!! My ring is white and blue sapphire, and I am proud to not have a diamond. Just love what you have and have a positive attitude about it, and soon people will be wondering if you judge them instead of the other way around. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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SomethingBlue1009: Let me preface this by saying my engagement ring is just diamonds and I love it. I am also a big fan of colour! I love aquamarine, just the other day I saw an aquamarine engagement ring with super sparkly (I assume diamond) side stones and for a second I felt a tiny bit of RL ring envy. It was just my style and sending big blue flashes across the room, pretty much flirting with me  I agree with most comments here except those that normalise bitching about other people’s engagement rings. Well, specifically in terms of stone type. I am as big a bitch as the next girl with her own tastes in jewellery, clothing, makeup…, for sure I have made some comments about the fashion sense of acquaintances when moved to do so. What I will say however is that anyone making comments about your ring because it is not a diamond is unoriginal and well, lazy. No ring is everyone’s cup of tea but if all they have against it is that it doesn’t conform to expectations dictated by some very recent ad campaigns, well whatevs. Just pity them and their small view of the world. Don’t feel selfconcious because others are lazy. Just do you.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I love the idea of a different engagement stone! I personally have a white shapprie and I love it. Your ring is very pretty, and if you love it that’s all that should matter.  

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t be surprised if people judge because that just seems like how the world works. People will judge you for everything. Even if you had a diamond, people would judge about how it’s too big or small. People will judge if it’s white or yellow gold. You can never win in this world!

However, I think non-diamond rings are becoming more and more popular.

Your ring is gorgeous! Try not to let other people bring you down. 

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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SomethingBlue1009:  rock your ring! This is about you.not them. They won’t be wearing it for the rest of your life. I have two blue topaz rings as erings and I love them both.  I have had people tell me my fi must not love me. But I specifically said no diamonds. So yeah. F them. You do you! <3 

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