(Closed) Non-Existent Plus 1 (guest) RSVP

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How would you respond to this guest?

    Close out RSVP Sept 5th

    Let her add guest last minute

  • Post # 17
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    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @bridepen Why exactly do you need a name? You gave her a plus one and she responded with a plus one. She has done absolutely nothing wrong. Just put her guest’s name down as BM’s guest and move on. No need to stress over semantics. All you need for rentals and food is a head count-which you already have. This isn’t worth potentially losing a friend over. As a single friend she may be going through some upset emotions about standing up for you at your wedding without even a chance of marriage in her near future. 

    Post # 18
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    2492 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Is your wedding really 11/5? That kind of changes things- that’s a really early RSVP date. 

    Post # 20
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    3108 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    When does the caterer/venue need their headcount by? I know for most places it’s usually about a week out.

    Post # 22
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    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @joya_aspera:  +1

    unfortunately when you extend a +1 for everyone you will get this. My wedding is THIS WEEKEND and, as of last week, I was still getting RSVPs bc people were looking for a date. I didnt get worked up over it at all. It isnt that serious. She will get you a name by the time you have to do place cards. I just got all names and did place cards today.

    Post # 25
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    1075 posts
    Bumble bee

    @bridepen:  don’t risk it, you pushed back your date enough. If she can’t provide u with a name it’s nt definite she is even bringing someone. 

    Post # 26
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    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @uberclaire is right. You don’t need a head count until a few days before your wedding. Most rental places will give you at least 5 extra of everything in your quote to account for extra guests and/or no shows. You can always call your rental places to double check.

    Trust me-don’t stress about this-maybe you should not give her a date, don’t tell her, and if she does end up bringing one, add him on a few days before. I reread my earlier message and didn’t love my tone-sorry if I sounded rude! Don’t let this stress you-you’ll have many stress-worthy things happen in the next few months to deal with! Good luck!

    Post # 27
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    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @bridepen:  dont worry…as your day gets closer you will laugh about this! Just give her the plus one and get a name when you have to do seating arrangements and place cards. Trust me!   I have so many things going on I wish a plus one’s name was my worry!

    Post # 30
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    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @bridepen:  I side with you completely on this one!  I’m going through the same thing on my end.  You are being EXTREMELY accommodating to push the deadline back for people who have had months and months to figure it out.  I also understand that you want a name so there’s no “and guest” all over your escort cards and, boy, can I relate to not wanting to pay for empty seats and meals.  I don’t think a lot of people understand the tremendous amount of work and money that goes into weddings.  You’re the one that extended the plus one, which is kind, but she’s the one being rude for dragging her feet and then giving you an attitude on top of it.  I think what I would do in that situation is tell her you’re submitting your final numbers and she will not be extended a guest since she had more than enough time to do so and didn’t.  And if she doesn’t want to come because of that, then so be it.  More money to pump back into your budget for anything else you might need.  People get WEIRD during wedding planning.  I have no idea why.  But it certainly shows you who your real friends are and who is dragging you along, waiting to see if something better comes up.  I hope everything works out!!

    Post # 31
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    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

     

    @BrooklynWife:  If you read carefully you would see that Desperate Debbie is probably going to back out if she can’t fnd Mr. Right in time. 

    This is SO damn rude. Can you hav a mutual friend reach out to her and figure out what is the issue? Maybe this girl is just clueless?? At this point I would not say anything because it’s only going to frustrate you. 

     

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