Post # 1
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Busy bee
I’m so confused. I have a list in front of me for a “normal” processional…however we are not having a formal ceremony. We are getting married outdoors in a lawn facing the ocean…(15 minute cermony) My problem is how to have everyone walk out…
I have 4 bridesmaids and he has 4 groomsmen….the bridesmaids have never met the groomsmen…would it be weird to pair them up and have them walk together or do I have the groomsmen walk single file together and then the bridesmaids follow one by one??
I have my mom, his mom and one grandmother…do they need to be ushered to their seats or do they just seat themselves like a regular guest?? My mom suggested maybe her and his mom walk down together…?? Also, I think in church weddings, the officiant and groom appear somewhere from the back….?? In my outdoor ceremony do they just walk down the aisle? Who comes first> The Officiant, the groom or the groomsmen in my case???
I have no flower girl…
may have a ringbearer depending on how my 3 yr old son is behaving that day : )
So I’m really confused…I don’t want a long formal processional but I also don’t want to confuse the elderly guests at our wedding who expect certain people to do and be in certain places. PLEASE HELP! ANY ADVICE APPRECIATED!!!
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
I think I would have the groomsmen and bridesmaids go in and out together, takes less time and looks nice in my opinion! The women can be escorted if you want or they can just sit down. As for the guys, I would have the officiant and your Fiance walk out before the groomsmen.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
We’re having all the guys go in together, and even though we’re in a church, there isn’t an entrance on the side or anything so Groom, Officiant, & Groomsmen will all walk down the aisle (but not as part of the “processional”)
We’ll probably have both our moms walk in together, but not be “seated” or anything like that.
Then Bridesmaid or Best Man will walk down, My Maid/Matron of Honor (my sis) will walk in last, most likely with my son (the ring bearer
Then our flower girl
Then me & my Dad.
Processional Time is right at 4 minutes but that’s only b/c I want the WHOLE song I’m walking down to to play.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I agree, I think it looks pretty when they walk down together…I was worried that my sisters would feel weird that they had to walk with someone they’ve never met…I’m not going to have them walk arm in arm or anything…just next to each other…is that okay??? I have no idea! lol
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Are you acually having your moms walk together as in side by side? or one by one? My mom thinks it would be nice for her and his mom to walk side by side each holding a single flower or something and then just taking their seats themselves…I wasn’t sure if anyoen had ever done something like that. Thanks!
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
Really I hadn’t thought too much about it, I guess together.. or just when they’re ready to go in on they’re on. We aren’t having them “seated” so it really has been a big deal in my book. lol
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@runsyellowlites: Thanks so much! I hadn’t even thought about certain ways…I just thought the only people that walked down were the BMs and GMs, me and my dad….then my mom’s like “well, are you gonna have someone usher your grandma and so forth?”….had no idea.
Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
In ours, the FH is walking down with his mother and will seat her after the groomsmen come in with their wives and seat them. The wive are really special to us, but we are having a small bridal party but I didn’t want to seperate them. Then our BMs will come in, they are both single so will come in alone, then my dad and I.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
lol… yea there have been alot of things in that process that I found out about. Luckily I have an AMAZINGLY understanding mom and she’s support all my “bad” etiquette lol. I’m sure you’ll get it all figured out how it works best for ya’ll