Post # 1
Hi ladies! I have a question for you. Please bear with me if I ramble! I have been on birth control since I was 10 years old, because of very severe menstrual problems when I started my period. I have been on every type of birth control. Pills, shot, iud, nuvaring, and after 14 years I am just getting tired of it. The side effects of the hormones are starting to get really old, and it seems like I am about out of options. I am currently on the nuvaring, and at first I thought it sounded great. I switched to it from the pill because the pill makes me so sick, and incredibly moody. At first it seemed perfect, but I have been having some serious issues with it that my doctor kept telling me were normal. I get yeast infections quite often, pain in between periods, gaining almost 20 Pounds. But the most severe is that I actually got pregnant while using the nuvaring (I understand this is a risk with every birth control) and then miscarried, and was told that my nuvaring may have been the cause for the misscarriage. I am over it. That was a scary and sad experience, and not something I wish to experience again. My husband and I do not want to have children, and if we ever change our minds (probably won’t happen, but everyone is insistent that it will) we have agreed that we would rather adopt than have a biological child anyways. I have done some research on tubal ligations, as well as essure which would be a permenant solution, and he has agreed to discuss getting a vasectomy with his doctor, but given the fact that we are young and have no children, finding a doctor to actually perform a procedure on either of us seems very unlikely. So I am trying to find a solution that is non hormonal and long term. We agreed that coming off of hormone birth controls is what is best for my health, and will use condoms if that’s what it takes. But I wanted to get some other opinions of any non hormonal options, as well as tubal ligations or Essure. If you have any experience with any of this, or know of any other options, please share! I am trying to do as much research as I can on options so that when I see my new doctor I can be informed on what I am asking. Thank you!
Post # 3
Unfortunately you will probably have a hard time finding a doctor who will sterilize you so young, especially without any children. Your husband might have better luck because it’s an easier surgery, easier to reverse down the line, and due to sexist ideas of “womanhood” it’s easier to believe a man who says “I want to have sex but will never want children” than a woman who says the same thing. My advice is plan to visit a lot of doctors until you find one who will do it, because it definitely sounds like the best option for you guys.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Copper IUD is non-hormonal and is a GREAT option for a lot of women. Aside from that, if you shop around long enough you should be able to find a doctor who will give you Essure – I’ve never had kids, don’t want kids, and am getting mine in March! 🙂
Post # 5
A friend of mine has NEXPLANON and loves it, but it is hormonal (progestin) . It’s an implant in her arm that is supposedly good for three years, but can be removed at any time. I will look at the same thing post children, since I’m prone to infections… I’m weary on the IUD.
Post # 6
I have Nexplanon and I highly recommend it! I had similar issues to you and tried just about everything!
Post # 7
I have a friend that has that, and it works perfectly for her. I would try it. But the hormones in it will make me a lunatic, and I’m looking for something more long term or permanent.
I definitely will try to find onw! My husband is in the military, so that makes doctor hunting a little different, having to get referrals and things to make sure it’s covered by insurance. But maybe my new doctor would be willing to do it.
Noone takes me seriously when I say I don’t want children. And when I say if we change our minds well adopt I get “*gasp* but they won’t be yours!”. Pregnancy is neat, and I think my friends are adorable and I’m thrilled for them when they’re all having babys, but they just don’t fit into our lives. We have absolutely no desire to be parents to anything more than our cat. And being treated like that’s a bad thing by doctors and anyone else who thinks they get a say on what my uterus does is getting old. I’m ready to just remove the baby factory and put an end to any discussion over it. Lol. that sounds really harsh. But y out can only be told you’ll change your mind for so many years before it’s just really irritating. I even had someone ask if they could pray for me to get pregnant once. I was like um…please dont?
Post # 8
If you run out of other options, keep it on the back burner. I know that I can’t take most pills (minus the BC “mini pill”) because its a mixture of estrogen and the progestin, and the estrogen, even at low dosages, is an issue for me, so maybe, just maybe, its the same for you. Plus now I really can’t have estrogen for other reasons, and my doctor recommended the “progestin only” options. Plus it’s a good amount of years for a “one hit” while you wait for a more permanent option 🙂
Post # 9
I would keep asking Docs. I find it insane that they won’t do a procedure on someone simply because they are young! (But also legally an adult able to give their own informed consent). Tubals are theoretically reversable so maybe they would be more likely to do that?
Post # 10
- Wedding: County courthouse
I agree with other posters. The copper iud is hormone free. But I you have a nickel allergy…steer clear. It copper coated nickel and caused serious bleeding non stop for four months for me. The dr failed to mention it has nickel in it. My husband got a vasectomy last yr. While most men are up and walking with minimal pain the same day…my husband was in crippling pain for a month. His testicles swelled up to the size of a melon and were black. A small percentage of men have adverse reactions to the procedure. And some men have chronic pain for the test of there lives. Do some serious digging before the procedure. Also..if you have a nickel allergy..you can’t get essure or your tubes tied.
Post # 11
I would look into the copper IUD (Paraguard). I’ve had one for 4 yrs now, they are good for up to 10-12 yrs now. I switched to it because I was also getting tired of the hormones in standard bc for 10 yrs. My body did take alot longer to adjust to it than hormonal bc, 3-6 months about, but my doctor warned me about that before hand. Not sure what the severe conditions you mentioned in your post are about, but just a warning the Paraguard will make your periods heavier & more painful while your body is adjusting to it, but once you adjust it will usually go back to regular…
Post # 12
I was also going to suggest the copper IUD. Though that can sometimes make periods even heavier, so I don’t know if that would be an issue for you. If you’re going for sterilization, I’d definitely recommend your husband do a vasectomy, as it’s a much easier/safer procedure and it will likely be easier for him to find someone that will do it.
Post # 13
We are in the same boat I do not do well on hormonal BC and we are not planning on having children. We are in the process of him getting referred to have a vasectomy. Seems like the best option for us and most permenant. We are 28 and 33 so hopefully the doctor will give us the go ahead.
Post # 14
Truthfully, in your situation, I think you should find a doctor who will tie your tubes. I know that it will be tough to convince them, but I think for you, it’s the right option.
Post # 15
Have you found out why you had mentstrual problems when you first started? I’m just worried you will go off the hormones and have some issues crop up that haven’t been figured out yet.