Post # 1
Ok ladies, I’ve had it…
In the past, I’ve used everything from the pill, the patch, the shot, and the ring, and not really had any side effects… but about 6 or 7 months ago, I switched from the pill back to the ring and I realized… my sex drive is NOWHERE near where it used to be – and I can feel the strain it’s putting on the hubbs… he’s not happy and neither am I, and the pressure to reciprocate (not from him, but from myself) is just causing anxiety.
So I told the hubbs that we have 2 choices: stay on hormonal BC and continue our 1x a week routine, or switch back to condoms and have sex more frequently. He definitely agreed to the latter option (duh!). We just aren’t in a place where we want kids yet, so natural methods are out.
So is there a BC out there that is NOT hormone-based? I’m just tired of feeling the way I do, and I want to want sex again, ya know? Does anyone else equate their lack of sex drive to their BC too? Is this common?
Post # 3
ohh sister – i have been there. i quit the pill several times due to the same thing and finally am done with it for good. i joked that the true way the pill works is because you’ll actually never want to have sex again (great birth control…!).
IUD or condoms are two alternatives…
Post # 4
I’ve heard the pill definitely can have a lot to do with lack of drive. What do you consider natural? Would charting by keeping track of your temperature and such for finding your ovulation days + using condoms be too natural? The condoms will help prevent a lot of the chances of contraception, and if you chart and know your ovulation days then you can just make sure to skip nookie on those days to reeeaaallly lessen your chances of a baby.
Post # 5
In terms of a pill you can take, no, there’s nothing non-hormonal. The non-hormonal methods of birth control consist of barrier devices (male/female condoms, diaphragms, cervical caps/sponges), IUDs (if you wanted non-hormonal, you’d have to go with the Copper IUD, aka Paraguard, but Mirena doesn’t usually affect libido, from what I understand), spermicides, and “natural” methods (fertility awareness, ex. measuring temp. every day, guesstimating when you should be ovulating, etc.).
Depending on how long you want to wait (and how “bad” it would be to get pregnant right now), I’d recommend either an IUD (if you want to wait 2+ years OR really really don’t want to get pregnant within the next yearish) or a combination of condoms + knowing your usual cycle (and just avoiding the week/days when you should be ovulating — not necessarily taking daily temperatures and watching for changes in cervical mucus if you consider that too cumbersome).
Post # 6
I highly, highly recommend that you find a copy of “Taking Charge of your Fertility” by Toni Weschler. http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Reproductive/dp/0060937645
I can’t do the pill and looked into this. It works great if you follow the rules and is as effective as the pill. I know you don’t want natural methods, but if you look up FAM (fertility awareness method), you will see it’s effective. My family doctor told me that he has many patients taking this route. It also helps for when you want to have kids, you have a great understanding of your body and it helped me concieve my son on the first cycle of trying. (I have successfully avoided for 35 cycles.)
Post # 7
@blueroses:i joked that the true way the pill works is because you’ll actually never want to have sex again (great birth control…!)
Lol my fiance says that as well.