- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Hi everyone, im new and I hope some of you can share with me your opinions on this topic, or help with some advice.
I was raised Catholic, Catholic school my whole life, attended church regularly, etc. As I entered college, I stopped attending church – but I still believe in the things I was taught, I have my reasons that I stopped attending mass (to those that are, please dont take offense, im simply trying to explain my position, thank you! 😀 )
My fiance’s parents baptised him in a Catholic church, but for reasons unbeknownst to all of us, didnt decide to raise him Catholic. So he never went to church, recieved the other sacraments, etc.
I would like to get married in a church. It does mean alot to me as it is how i was raised, and I would like to have our wedding blessed in a Church. It would also mean alot to both of our parents. But I am having trouble finding a church who will marry us. I keep getting told that we have to be part of the parish. We both grew up on long island, but now live in brooklyn. we are planning to wed in long island – so even if i half heartedly joined a parish in brooklyn, that wouldn’t help. Im afraid of saying that I dont have a parish because I choose not to attend. I am a good catholic, and a good person.
Finally today I found a church who will agree to meet with us. The priest said it wasnt a problem since i just moved and did not have a parish yet. I also told him of my fiance’s baptism – and he groaned. he said to come in and we will discuss, but i feel like we are going to get sent away again.
I have to be honest, for the 18 years of my life that I was a very very practicing catholic, Im getting very upset that this is so difficult. we are very open for him to take classes, etc. and anything else we’d have to do. I dont understand why we arent being welcomed, and instead are being thrown around.
If this church doesn’t work out, I am thinking we will have a non-church ceremony, but its really upsetting me cause thats not what I want to do.
Any advice would be appreciated!