(Closed) non-religious bees… how did you choose your officiant?

posted 9 years ago in Secular
Post # 32
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

One of FI’s co-workers is a notary, so he offered to be our officiant (for free!) 🙂

Post # 33
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re using an actual minister, but just because he’s a girl-friend’s dad and we’ve seen him officiate non-denominational weddings in the past…

In Canada, the Department of Vital Statistics has a link to lists of officiants in each area… I wonder if the States would have something similar…?

Good luck!

Post # 34
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Seriously, we are going for the cheapest. Our ceremony will be 10-15 minutes tops, I am not trying to spend a fortune for that.

Post # 35
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Resntapriest.com Also the search tool on weddingwire and theknot. We looked for nondenominational/humanist reverends. We just designed our ceremony and there is no mention of god, the holy spirit, heaven, or prayer.

Post # 36
4822 posts
Honey bee

We had a close family friend do it. She happened to be an Episcopalian Reverand, but her beliefs are very liberal and we were OK with her doing it because of who she was. We did strip out as much of the religious stuff as she allowed us to.

It was short and sweet with just a quick prayer and blessing that was pretty secular in its words.

Post # 37
13 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Here in Florida you can officiate a wedding just as a notary public. We talked to our friend and asked him if he would consider getting his notary license. He signed up for the class the next week! We are very happy that we will have our friend performing our ceremony. He knows what we will want said during the ceremony and what to definitely leave out. It is also extra special because he is getting this license just to perform our wedding.

Post # 38
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I did A LOT of online searching for an inter-faith/spiritual officiant who wasn’t going to be overbearing or impersonal.  I got really lucky with mine.

Reverend Dawn is awesome if anyone in Georgia is interested – http://www.revdawn.com/.  Don’t let the “reverand” put you off.  She’s really open to doing non-religious ceremonies.

Post # 39
8 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was provided a list of vendors from one of the venues I considered for my wedding. I then did internet research, and read all the reviews. I made sure they offered templates that suited our needs. We wanted to avoid being expected to write our own vows out of whole cloth, and also wanted to avoid anything too new age or hedonistic (often assumed of secular couples for some reason). The person we selected had several well written templates, which we could edit and build to our own specifications or use as is. The communication has also been rather easy going, and perhaps one of the only vendors who hasn’t managed to cause me stress (at least not yet). 

Post # 40
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m using a non-religious friend who is ordained (for the purpose of marrying people). If I hadn’t had her as an option, I’d have looked for a judge or other person capable of performing civil ceremonies.

Post # 41
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My FI’s cousin is a pastor, and is also one of my FI’s good friends. He will be performing our ceremony, and we have just started to work with him on how we want our ceremony to look.

Post # 42
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My dad got ordained and is going to officiate. He has stage 4 cancer and just finished his chemo and radiation and will have surgery on May 8th, so having my Dad there to marry my Fiance and I means a lot to me.

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