(Closed) Non Religious bees, how did you pick your wedding officiant?

posted 8 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I want to know too 🙂

Post # 4
4675 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We ended up going with a girl who my aunt knows (her niece or something?  who has her licence).  We had a hard time finding someone though.  Also, we are having the wedding in a very religious area, so finding non church people to officiate was hard!  Our back-up idea is a chaplen that works with my aunt, and we were just about to sign a contract with a non-denominational reverend.  I looked on wedding wire though to start my search! 

Post # 5
3768 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

We are having a friend be our officiant (although we haven’t asked the one we chose yet).  There should be some blog or board posts here about it, but i would recommend googling something like “internet ordained friend officiant” that sort of thing.  Your friend/family member can get ordained on the internet!

Post # 6
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My friend’s husband got ordained online to marry us. We also talked to a pastor at a non-denominational church. I would look up your state laws and take it from there.

Post # 7
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My husband’s brother got ordained online and we found a service to help us put together the ceremony to make sure it flowed and everything that needed to be included was in there.

We used the Universal Life Church – http://www.themonastery.org/ to get him ordained if that’s a route you’re interested in. The site goes into more details on the different state laws regarding who can marry you, I would check that first to make sure you won’t have any legal problems!

Post # 8
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just did a lot of googling for wedding officiants where we’re getting married.  There were plenty to choose from, most not religiously affiliated.  TBH, we picked the least expensive one we could find that was experienced (one girl I found was offering discounts because she had just started out). 

Personally, I don’t like the idea of having a friend do it.  I think it’s great in theory, but most people aren’t going to be comfortable like that in front of so many people, or have experience. 

Post # 9
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we are still looking for one but we found a site online that has tons of non religeous JP’s

i don’t want to pay that much for them though haha


Post # 10
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I asked them if they would do a wedding for 2 people of the same sex, and if they said no I just went on to the next.  Luckily I live in Oregon (very liberal) and this wasn’t a big issue and most said yes they would.

Post # 11
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we are having a very good friend of mine do it. you can get ordained online i believe, as hes doing it at the present. i think its different in the states though, i know you can still do it but i think i read somewhere that every state might be different? ive chose the basis of what he’ll say from research online and then added my own words and twist on it.

Post # 12
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

referral from our hall.  We met with her and really liked her so it’s working out well.

Post # 13
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My Brother-In-Law (sister’s husband) was already ordained via internet as he officiated a few other friends’ weddings. Since we know him and love him, it felt natural that he would officiate for us. It was simple since he was ordained. Yay us!

Post # 14
11268 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

this may sound a bit impersonal but we found our officiant online.

we wanted to get married onsite at the venue and only wanted a short ceremony (20 min max).

i looked online for officiants in the area and contacted them by email.  i was out of country so i arranged phone meetings with the ones that i was interested in. i wanted to hear their voice to make sure it was not like a cartoon character. (most websites had a picture of the officiant so i knew they looked normal).  they had references online too.

the one we chose was great.  he was very professional and had a great speaking voice.  we didn’t meet him until the day of the wedding.  we were both very pleased with his service.  and lucky i guess too.


@CheapoBride:  where are you located?


Post # 15
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Check with your venue, or if there’s a bridal expo/event coming up- I met an officiant at an open house when we were venue shopping.

Post # 16
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are having a very good friend marry us.  In MA, you can apply to officiate one wedding without having to do the whole online ministry thing, so we’re going that route.

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