(Closed) Non Religious bees, how did you pick your wedding officiant?

posted 8 years ago in Secular
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re using a Humanist Officiant. I looked up the Humanist Society here, contacted a few of them and we picked one together after our meetings.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re having my fiance’s Uncle (who is an awesome public speaker) officiate for us. He got his license online and everything. He’s VERY excited to be officiating and we’re excited too! 🙂

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Our legal ceremony is being performed by whomever is on duty in the city hall of NYC or Washington, DC. Our formal ceremony is being performed by the captain of our cruise ship–so there’ll be lots of nautical references in a strong, thick Italian accent.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We live in a very religious area so it’s hard finding someone to do for us what we want. We may have to cave in and do a religious ceremony :(. I don’t want the religion involved but I do want traditions that our family does (like the processional and the sand ceremony and the jumping of the broom) and it’s been hard finding someone. I can’t get anyone to volunteer to be ordained to do it like I thought I would be able to and I’m not sure if the Justice of the Peace is going to honor my tradition wishes (they usually want the shortest ceremony possible I heard).

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We have a great personal friend who just happens to be an offciant. It just worked out. :]

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was talking to a coworker who is also nonreligious and she gave me the name of the person who was her officiant. We called her and chose her the same day 🙂 Ask around, it seems like a lot of people are having secular ceremonies.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

This was actually a reason we kept putting wedding off (while not really admitting it and using other excuses).  A few weeks ago I was at a friends house and she asked if we were married yet (I don’t see her that often) and I said “No you’d be invited if we did/were”.  Then she asked what the hold up was (we’ve been engaged for 3 years already) and since she also isn’t religious I told her.  So she tells me her husband is ordained and he has a masters in religion even though they are not religious themselves.  We all started talking and he agreed to marry us.  So now we have set our date :).  It couldn’t have worked out more perfect.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

My best friend married us & my cousin married my sister & her husband. They can go to the county clerk’s office and for a fee become a “deputy commisioner” for the day to perform the ceremony, or they can go to a site like http://www.universallifechurch.org/ for free and become a non-denominational minister as well. 

Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

My cousin was ordained to marry us. Hands down, one of the best wedding decisions we made!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We started out looking online, but ended up asking a very close friend who is a professor at a local university. he’s an amazing speaker, and has been really close with us throughout our relationship. 

We gave him full reign on what he wanted to say. Which is weird because I’m normally a control freak on things like this.  But I trust him and think it’s going to be an amazing surpirse to hear his ceremony.  🙂

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We had my friend’s boyfriend get ordained through the Universal Life Church, so he’ll be marrying us. Everyone else we knew more or less refused!

I have to say, it’s going to be a real kick when FI’s family learns that not only is our friend NOT a ‘real’ priest, he’s also gay (they’re very conservative, anti-gay, anti-drinking, etc…should be an interesting wedding)!

 

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@DimeStoreDropout:  I wanted to add: in case you want to do this, contact your county clerk after you get ordained to make sure you have everything you need.

We are in Michigan, and as soon as you are ordained online, you are legit. You just need to fill out the marriage license and follow the directions (this is true for ALL of Michigan).

In other states, you may need to get a letter of good standing and other things from the ULC to mail to your county clerk, so call and ask your county clerk for help.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

We got a lovely reverend from the Unitarian Universalist church to do our secular ceremony with a touch of Paganism. She has been great to work with. 

Post # 45
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Newbee

Justice of the Peace, and we told him we wanted nothing “religious” said. I believe it is called a “civil” marriage script, so maybe ask for that?

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We Googled for nonsecular officiants and found a company that had a stable of people at the ready. From there, we picked a guy with a really unusual name, JUST for his name. He was a sweet guy, did a great job, and no one will ever forget his name. haha

 

(edited to add–we worked together to script a nonreligious ceremony, and we got rave reviews on it. It was very personal and still a recognizable ceremony.)

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