- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I am meeting with my officiant tomorrow. He gave us an outline of a ceremony and told us we could pick and choose what to include. We used a lot of passages and things we found on our own. I have tried to combine it and I hope it sounds okay because it’s taken me a while :/. I know that this is completely lacking in transitions (I wanted to wait and ask my officiant what his normal transitions are because I’m sure he has some, even though they weren’t included in the packet he gave us.)
So here it is, let me know if you have any comments and suggestions! But, if you hate the whole thing please don’t tell me haha.
I’m sorry that it is long!
Processional: Guests come in and are seated, and right before the ceremony starts the parents come in and are seated. Minister, groom stand at the altar, music changes and groomsmen and bridesmaids come out and the maid of honor and the flower girl and ring bearer. Then the music changes (Rev motions to guests to stand) Then the bride and her father come to the altar, bride passes flowers to maid of honor. Then I, Rev. Martin, will say who gives this bride to this man? Father/ or party will say : I do / her mother and I do / my wife and I do.
Welcoming : It is with deep affection for _____and _____ that we come together to celebrate their love and commitment to each other. Today they begin a new life together. Their love and hopes and dreams have brought them to this moment and that same love and hope and dream will bring them into new life and into old age. We share this day with them. We wish them the best of all good things from this day forward and for the rest of all their days. Although this is their day, it is also a tribute to all of you. For knowing you and interacting with you has helped to make our Bride and Groom who they needed to be to find each other. They would like to thank you all for that. You all hold a special place in their hearts and they are deeply grateful for each and every one of you here today
Foundation: Marriage is a supreme sharing, perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyful uniting of a man and a woman whose care and affection and understanding have flowered into a deep and abiding love. Those who take its sacred vows have their lives blended together into one, as the waters of two rivers are joined when they come together to form an even greater one.
For those of us blessed by a true partnership of love, we feel safe in the presence of our loved one. There is no need to hide any part of ourselves for fear of being judged or rejected. We can just be together from moment to moment, believing that those moments will thread together into eternity. There is a gentleness to the presence of love that softens life’s rough edges. It makes us somehow braver to go forth into the world knowing that the shelter of someone’s love awaits us at day’s end. We are most vulnerable when we love. We place our trust in another to honor us and to care for us, to treasure us and to receive our love. In love, we trust that the other will provide a safe haven in which we can experience and share the fullness of our being with one another. And in so doing, we trust that our lives will be far richer than had we chose separate journeys through this world. We trust that our love will fill us full and make us wiser and more beautiful beings. We find that our union graces our lives with balance, a sweetness beyond any we have ever tasted and a treasure beyond any measure of value we have ever know.
Parental Honoring :
____and _____ want to acknowledge their parents on this occasion, ________________. _____and _____ offer their profound gratitude to their parents for all the love and care they showed in raising them. The unconditional gifts of love and support that you have continually offered have inspired them to become who they are today, and they thank you, from the bottom of their hearts, for guiding them to this celebration of love here today. Without you, this day would not be possible.
Silent Blessing :
“On this happy day, surrounded by friends and family, we also honor those family members and friends who are no longer with us, especially the grandparents of GROOM and BRIDE. Let us pause for a moment and bring those who are no longer with us into our thoughts and into our hearts.”
Love by roy Croft:
I love you
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple.
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good.
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means,
The Union Robert Fulghum:
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “ You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife.
The Hands Ceremony :
_____ and _____, please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears of sorrow and tears of joy from your eyes,.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
_______, I choose you, to be my lifelong partner, lover, and best friend.
I will always be faithful to you,
and be at your side to laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sorrow.
Wherever our path leads us, it takes us together.
I will encourage and support you, honor and love you,
I will respect our differences and do my part to work through all of our challenges. ____, I’ll be your safe haven and your home.
I promise you this with all of my heart for all the days of my life.
Ring Ceremony: Wedding rings are symbolic reminders of the unbroken circle of a healthy and abiding love. Within the safety and comfort of a true marriage, love freely given has no beginning and no end. Love freely given has no separate giver and receiver. Each of you gives your love to the other and each of you receives love from the other. And the circle of love goes around and around.
May these rings serve to remind you of the freedom and the power of your love.
_________, I give you this ring as a symbol of my unending love and commitment to you. I ask you to accept it as a sign of my faithful commitment to be your husband/wife.
With this ring I give you my promise to honor you, to be faithful to you, and to share my love and my life with you in all ways, always
Forasmuch as you, _____ and you, _____, have openly declared your wishes to be united in marriage, and in the presence of these witnesses have pledged love to each other, and have confirmed the same by joining hands, exchanging rings and declaring your vows, I as a minister and legally authorized to do – pronounce that you are now husband and wife. You may now kiss the bride.
Irish Blessing: May joy and peace surround you, contentment latch your door, and happiness be with you now and bless you evermore.
Conclusion: (Rev will gently touch ____ and ___’s shoulders and turn them around to face the guests) and now, ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to present to you for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. ________________.
Thanks for any help! It is much appreciated!