Post # 1
I am recently engaged and we are just starting to think about planning even though it is still way far away. One thing I am having trouble envisioning is the actual ceremony. So far the only weddings I have been to as an adult have been church weddings right after high school, and our non-religious friends did the Vegas wedding chapel thing.
My partner has said he can’t imagine the ceremony taking more than 5 or 10 minutes, and I agree that I don’t want an hour-long elaborate program. But…I don’t want the whole thing to feel like *just* a party, either. I want the actual wedding to feel important.
How did other non-religious bees handle the ceremony portion? What was the duration, and are there things you wish you had or hadn’t done?
Post # 2
We are having a couple small secular readings during our ceremony as well as each of us writing our own vows. We estimate 15-20 minutes from start to finish.
If you want to make it longer, look into like a sand ceremony or candle ceremony or something to symbolize the joining of your families.
I think as long as you put pieces of yourselves in the wedding, it will be beautiful. The wedding doesn’t have to be an hour long to be special and meaningful.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
saintpaulgal: I’m getting married Saturday, and our ceremony will only be about 25 to 30minutes long. The only reason is that long is because since my side of the family only speaks spanish, and his side only english, we decided to do a bilingual ceremony to involve everyone. If it wasn’t for all the transaleting it would have been about 15 minutes. I will let you kno how it goes! lol
Post # 4
We’re looking at about 20-25 minutes for our secular ceremony. Here’s the general order of things. It ended up being 2,400 words or just under 5 pages typed up, including notes about what people will be doing.
Prelude/Words of Welcome & Processional
Charge to the Couple/Declaration of Intent
Exchange of Rings
Vows of the Gathering
I found a neat website to estimate how long it’ll take to read a script. Our 2,400 words, between average and slow speed, would take about 20 minutes according to them: http://www.edgestudio.com/production/words-to-time-calculator.