Post # 1
Hi bees, I’ve been thinking about the ceremony and want to start planning that. Neither my Fiance or I are religious. I was wondering if any other non religious bees would mind sharing their favorite reading they included in their ceremony? Poems? Book excerpts? Etc. If you’d like to share the template for your entire ceremony that would be great too. I just can’t think of what we want to use. Also we are trying to keep the ceremony under a half hour, maybe closer to 20 minutes, short but not too short. I’m anxious in front of people and don’t want to stand up there too long with and all eyes on me! Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
Union from The Beginning to End by Robert Fulghum
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks — all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, ” You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
We used “Why Love is Like Owning a Dog” by Taylor Mali. It’s pretty long but we cut some parts out of it for time sake. We have a dog and wanted to include her some way into the ceremony but couldnt have her there. It’s a pretty cute reading
Post # 5
I had my officiant add this in to our otherwise pretty basic ceremony. I think I found it on pinterst? Or Facebook.. I’m not sure but I loved and it made me cry :’)
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and as in today, tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Post # 6
I’m such a softy, I teared up reading these! Following for inspiration 🙂
Post # 7
xxmegbugxx: We chose i carry your heart with me by E.E. Cummings. It’s so beautful and was perfect for us. The ceremony was the most important part of the day for me, we took a lot of time and thought in planning every aspect of it. It was tough though trying to keep it under half hour lol
i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)
Post # 9
From Captain Corelli’s Mandolin:
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.
Post # 10
We had Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116.
Post # 11
jamminjuls: We had a version of this at the end of our ceremony and it made me cry too…did NOT see that coming, lol.
Here is one site with a few ideas. If you google “secular wedding readings” you’ll get a bunch of ideas.
7 non-cheesy wedding readings for long-term couples
(Some of these are mentioned in PP’s)
Post # 12
FutureMrsW2015: a classic! And one that crossed my mind
allyson.m88: we don’t have have a dog together, but both have owned dogs and would like one in the future…I’ll look this up!
jamminjuls: aww. This one made me a little teary. Might be dangerous. I don’t want to be a bawling mess the whole ceremony! Lol. I am sooo sensitive
Post # 13
gollum: love this. Today is Fiance and I’m 9th anniversary together, so we are past the “honeymoon” in love stage. This fits us well.
Post # 14
chiweeniemommy: thanks I’ll check that out. I’ve googled a bit but just found a lot of boring templates. Nothing that jumped out at me yet
Post # 15
Drizzle: I came here with intentions of showing the OP Sonnet 116. It’s one of my favorites! So beautiful..