Non-Sappy Wedding Ideas?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
546 posts
Busy bee

We are not doing any of the traditional sappy stuff, either. We are actually having my brother officiate and instead of vows, we are doing toasts to one another. We’re having yard games, a bags tournament, horseshoes, washers… some fun music and a bonfire. Literally just chill and fun and none of the traditional stuff.

Post # 3
1551 posts
Bumble bee

We didnt do speeches or first dance either. The hardest part was finding non sappy readings for the ceremony! Pick interesting music for your ceremony, we walked out to ‘concerning hobbits’ played by a string quartet, it was great and we love LOTR. My husband said a short thankyou toast instead of speeches. Were both pretty shy so we didnt do any games or anything though. 

Post # 4
1 posts
  • Wedding: January 2018

I think entertainment of any type is always fun especially for us guests who hate to dance! I think, if it’s in your budget, you could hire belly dancers or have airbrush tattoo artists come for the  kids, have fun carnival like games,  maybe trivia!


I love the idea of something out of the ordinary. Dancing and drinking is fun for some people and not so fun for others. 

Post # 5
6443 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t think you need to add more than you’ve already picked out to replace what you are skipping. I also think there is a point where you will overkill on the jokes and people will begin to believe you aren’t taking your marriage seriously. We didn’t have any of that ‘sappy’ stuff either. Our group hung out and chatted and tossed a football and frisbee when it wasn’t raining. My husband bbq’d the meal. Guests and wedding party all arrived at the ceremony venue via six-seater UTV and our music was the theme from The Comancheros, an old western filmed in the area.  It was fun and light without crossing over into silly territory.

Post # 6
3595 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

marblequeen25 :  I find most entertainment cheesy and something that is obnoxiously taking up my attention. Skip the “shoe game”, skip any planned “activities” – adults don’t need to be entertained like a child’s birthday party. If you have food, drink, and music, you’re good. If you want to add extras, do things that people don’t have to pay attention to – like a photoboth, fire pit, lawn games, etc. We go married outside and had a fire pit with a s’mores bar so people could roast marshmallows. The grounds were also lit and there were paths so people could take walks around if they wanted. But adults will drink, eat, socialize and dance. They don’t need anything else.

Post # 8
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

marblequeen25 :  If you want a flash mob, get a flash mob! We are doing a brunch, casual, first dance no formal dance with my dad etc. I am working the invite instead of Reception to follow as “Brunch Celebration” to follow, becasue I want to break the expectation of a normal reception.

Post # 9
8170 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

marblequeen25 :  

This is unasked for l know, but l would really reconsider the ‘funny officiant’. All the rest is fine ( you know your crowd, and l assume they are up for this. I would be a bit embarrassed lol)

But your actual vows, esp if in an otherwise traditional ceremony, seem to deserve better than being made a bit of a joke. No no need for gushy sappy stuff, l totally understand that! But something short and , well, dignified, idk, just seems better. Just my opinion of course. 

Post # 10
200 posts
Helper bee

I also don’t like sappy stuff, but I think a “funny” officiant, “shoe game”, and flash mob and the rest of those suggestions all sound extremely tacky. Adults can entertain themselves and don’t like being interrupted for that stuff

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