Post # 1
My Fiance and I really hate all that sappy romantic wedding stuff. We aren’t having a first dance, and we aren’t giving speeches about how much we love each other, its just not our style. We both have had a really difficult year and we want our wedding to be light and fun for everyone. Fiance also moonlights as a stand up comedian.
We are trying to come up with some fun ideas for the wedding to keep it light and fun the whole way through. We already hired a really funny officiant, and our videogrpaher will be filming a jokesy video of us to show the guests during the wedding. We are also going to make programs with funny/silly bios about the wedding party. Also thinking about playing the shoe game.
Does anyone have any other ideas for fun/cute/silly/funny wedding activites?
Post # 2
We are not doing any of the traditional sappy stuff, either. We are actually having my brother officiate and instead of vows, we are doing toasts to one another. We’re having yard games, a bags tournament, horseshoes, washers… some fun music and a bonfire. Literally just chill and fun and none of the traditional stuff.
Post # 3
We didnt do speeches or first dance either. The hardest part was finding non sappy readings for the ceremony! Pick interesting music for your ceremony, we walked out to ‘concerning hobbits’ played by a string quartet, it was great and we love LOTR. My husband said a short thankyou toast instead of speeches. Were both pretty shy so we didnt do any games or anything though.
Post # 4
I think entertainment of any type is always fun especially for us guests who hate to dance! I think, if it’s in your budget, you could hire belly dancers or have airbrush tattoo artists come for the kids, have fun carnival like games, maybe trivia!
I love the idea of something out of the ordinary. Dancing and drinking is fun for some people and not so fun for others.
Post # 5
I don’t think you need to add more than you’ve already picked out to replace what you are skipping. I also think there is a point where you will overkill on the jokes and people will begin to believe you aren’t taking your marriage seriously. We didn’t have any of that ‘sappy’ stuff either. Our group hung out and chatted and tossed a football and frisbee when it wasn’t raining. My husband bbq’d the meal. Guests and wedding party all arrived at the ceremony venue via six-seater UTV and our music was the theme from The Comancheros, an old western filmed in the area. It was fun and light without crossing over into silly territory.
Post # 6
marblequeen25 : I find most entertainment cheesy and something that is obnoxiously taking up my attention. Skip the “shoe game”, skip any planned “activities” – adults don’t need to be entertained like a child’s birthday party. If you have food, drink, and music, you’re good. If you want to add extras, do things that people don’t have to pay attention to – like a photoboth, fire pit, lawn games, etc. We go married outside and had a fire pit with a s’mores bar so people could roast marshmallows. The grounds were also lit and there were paths so people could take walks around if they wanted. But adults will drink, eat, socialize and dance. They don’t need anything else.
Post # 7
Thanks for all the input bees!
We are getting married in a traditional banquet hall and having a pretty traditional/religious ceremony (but with a funny officiant). I guess I just wanted to balance out the cookie-cutter banquet hall wedding blah with some stuff that felt a little more us.
Do people still do flash mobs at weddings or is this “out”?
Post # 8
marblequeen25 : If you want a flash mob, get a flash mob! We are doing a brunch, casual, first dance no formal dance with my dad etc. I am working the invite instead of Reception to follow as “Brunch Celebration” to follow, becasue I want to break the expectation of a normal reception.
Post # 9
This is unasked for l know, but l would really reconsider the ‘funny officiant’. All the rest is fine ( you know your crowd, and l assume they are up for this. I would be a bit embarrassed lol)
But your actual vows, esp if in an otherwise traditional ceremony, seem to deserve better than being made a bit of a joke. No no need for gushy sappy stuff, l totally understand that! But something short and , well, dignified, idk, just seems better. Just my opinion of course.
Post # 10
I also don’t like sappy stuff, but I think a “funny” officiant, “shoe game”, and flash mob and the rest of those suggestions all sound extremely tacky. Adults can entertain themselves and don’t like being interrupted for that stuff
Post # 11
This is so interesting to hear another prespective. I’ve been to a couple weddings, and the ones with at least some sort of entertainment have always been more memorable. I get what someone above said about having passive entertainment like a photobooth or lawn games.
But the weddings I’ve been to with just food and music were still a little boring and not memorable compared to the ones with more out-of-box things. Maybe that’s just me personally.