Post # 1
So my boyfriend proposed with an expensive ring (by our standards). He didn’t enjoy spending thousands on a diamond but he did as a once in a lifetime thing to make me happy. We knew nothing about diamonds so he tried to just choose something without visible inclusions. He worked overtime most days to be able to afford the cost.
I feel so bad for him and myself because it hardly sparkles. I researched online and apparently the cut is too shallow so the light passes through it. When I saw it I thought it looked like a white sapphire, but it was a dark restaurant and maybe it needed brighter lighting to sparkle. I tried at home and outdoors in the light, but no… Because of a big bowtie the diamond looks gray when it faces you. Only when I tilt it to the side can I see a little sparkle.
I love my ring and what it symbolizes. I wouldn’t tell him what I wrote here. He would be disappointed and sad. I always dreamed of having a sparkly ring. He spent so much money trying to get something pretty but he did not research about diamond specs. I see beautiful rings posted here with much more sparkle that cost less. I feel regret about the money he had to part with…for me.
I’m not a fan of moissanites and now I kind of wish I went for the moissanite instead. At least it sparkles and is more affordable. I wouldn’t mind spending my own money to get a moissanite but I’m too sentimental to stop wearing the ring he gave me. I feel like a bad human being for even posting these words about the ring he gave me. 🙁
Post # 2
Can you post a photo? May be able to help us help you figure out options for what you currently have.
Post # 3
Do you have any photos of your ring? I’m sure it’s stunning. Do you have more information about the cut? Depth/Angles/Table Size/etc?
You can always get a sparkly wedding band 🙂
Post # 4
Is it too late to return it?
Post # 5
Is it clean? I clean mine a lot so that it keeps its sparkle.
Post # 6
kimmacph : Yes, a sparkly wedding band and adding a halo may help a lot.
Post # 7
Don’t feel bad for feeling this way. It’s not your fault or your FIs. You’re allowed to be disappointed. It sounds like your jeweller pulled a swiftly on your FI.
If you have paid more than some of the bees here and your ring does not sparkle as much, I would question the integrity of the jeweller. Perhaps take the ring to a couple of other jewellers and have them examine it objectively to determine the specs/cost of what the ring is worth? I would then go back to the original jeweller and tell them what the other jewellers said. From what you said, it sounds like you paid a considerable amount of money and hopefully the opinions from other jewellers will be enough to persuade the original jeweller to refund you or perhaps even refund you a portion of what you paid (in case you don’t want to give the ring back for sentimental reasons).
Also did you get a GIA certificate?
Post # 8
I know you would feel bad about parting with the ring he gave you. Maybe the solution could be upgrading just the diamond & keeping the setting. I’m sure he would understand & you would feel a lot better. You can even plan ahead for an anniversary or special date to ensure it upholds that sentiment ♡
Post # 9
What is shape of your stone? If it is a pear or oval, you will see a bow tie effect no matter what. Also, any shapes of diamonds will have a dark spot when you are directly looking at it due to reflection. If you think your fi over paid for your stone, I think you should talked him and go back to the jeweler together for exchange.
Post # 10
lattebean : have you tried cleaning it really well with a toothbrush and dish soap? Also can we see a picture? I’m wondering if more metal around/behind the stone might help to trap the light, but it’s hard to say without seeing it.
Post # 11
When you mentioned gray, it sounded to me that it’s that light gray “washed out dense” look that a diamond has when it doesn’t have good clarity. It will only have a faint sparkle once in a while in certain lighting, usually at the edges. Is the diamond heavily included? If so, there won’t be much in there to sparkle.
As nykkee said, do try cleaning it and see if that helps first.
You can exchange the stone as mentioned. If you did not get what you expected or paid for, you can talk to the jeweler about swapping it with a better diamond. Since it’s new and they want to have a happy customer, I would take the angle that you are unhappy and are not going to pay any more for a better diamond because you thought you were paying for a better diamond in the first place. (Note: This is, according to the way you made it sound, that you paid a lot. However, any diamond may sound like a lot of money to people, and there are a lot of mall stores especially who have not-so-great duller looking diamond rings whose cost is still a lot of money… so maybe that’s what they sold you?? That’s the part we don’t know because we don’t have your specs).
But an exchange lets you still keep your ring, but get a sparkly diamond in it. 🙂
Post # 12
lattebean : It’s okay to feel disappointed. My first advise would be to get it cleaned. After a month of wearing my ring, I was why does my ring not sparkle?? then I cleaned it and became sparkly. So try that and also, lighting makes a big difference. My ring barely sparkles inside our home or office but I was in a store other day and my ring was so sparkly and even more when we went to stadium. So dont go by pictures taken in bright light vs looking in regular light. Also you can get a blingy band 🙂 or you can add stacking ringss. Also, checkout ring guards.
Post # 13
lattebean : your ring is beautiful and the diamond looks sparkly in the pic you shared. I have an oval diamond too and I notice it’s very sensitive to cleaning. do you have an ultrasonic cleaner?
Post # 14
I don’t think your ring looks dull at all! What are the specs? Remember, the bee is skewed and the reality is most men do not learn about all the characteristics of a diamond and the ‘best’ specs before buying a ring.
Since it’s from JA you can exchange the stone if it’s really bothering you, they have a great return policy.
Ovals can get grubby quite easily since they have a large surface area and a large table so make sure you give it a clean with a gentle toothbrush frequently.
Post # 15
You ordered your ring from James Allen yes? JA has often helped a customer with swapping out the diamond if they weren’t happy about it. I’ve seen many bee’s over the years do this. Call them! Give them a chance to help you if you’re unhappy with the diamond. It’s beautiful! But we don’t have to wear it, he should be happy with the purchase and so should you. Nothing at JA is cheap! call them bee 🙂