Post # 1
My Fiance and I are so excited and happy to be getting married, I will say though, this was not always the case. We have always known we wanted to spend our lives together but personally I was never sold on a traditional wedding. We have spent the last year planning a ceremony and reception that is so uniquely us. Our plans dont even stray that far from tradition..mostly we are just eliminating lots of things that we find either annoying or simply not necessary(clinking glasses,garter toss,bouquet toss,cake cutting). For the most part people have been really receptive to our ideas but on occasion I run across a person that just doesn’t get it. Over the weekend we went home to visit my FI’s oldest brother and my Future Sister-In-Law, upon hearing that we would be eliminating the above elements said “so your not even having a wedding at all”.
It just made me so angry!!
I am curiouse how all you other non traditionalist are being recieved. I would love to hear any similar stories or concerns. Or if you just want to brag about any of your plans to a group that “gets it” thats cool too
Post # 3
@Jlee28: …this is kind of me. I’m actually nervous to post any photos from our wedding/reception (when that happens) for fear I’ll get ‘shunned’ on the Bee :-p I get along with everyone here great and think I have a decent reputation, but I *do* wonder if the “weird” factor will put folks off.
I am VERY non-traditional, and while our actual ceremony at the beach may look run-of-the-mill, I *promise* our reception will turn heads.
Post # 4
I’m pretty non-traditional as well, though if a stranger walked by they might think it was traditional. But probably only because I’m still wearing ivory. I did consider gold, though, it looks great on me 😀
The least traditional things will be the lack of religion in the ceremony, and the entry song. I’ve stated what the song was before, but here’s a link: http://chongthenomad.tumblr.com/post/22407609276/when-avatars-fall-in-love-kataang-makorra-theme
But anyway. Everyone’s been cool with my non-traditional stuff so far, even if they were taken by surprise at first.
Post # 5
@badabing88: Now I’m curious about your reception lol. I’m a sucker for breaking tradition because the “expected” can sometimes get quite borning, you kno? And even if its pretty crazy, that wow factor or shock is something everybody needs once in a while.
Post # 6
I think we’re kind of non-traditional. We probably wont have a bridal party, wont do the whole garter tossing and those kind of things. Neither of us are religious but we both have Celtic backgrounds so we will probably be having rituals like hand fastings or knot tying.
Post # 7
My planner said I don’t have to do any of the other stuff, EXCEPT for cake cutting. Apparently, it’s a good time filler. So don’t discard that ideas. I have no bridal party, there will be no garter toss, no bridal shower, no bachlorette party (he can have his bachelor party if he wants), no favors, I don’t want to give a stupid speech. Although I have considered giving out a joints as party favors BUT i don’t need any legal trouble. If I could, I totally would. That’s the favor that keeps on giving! Screw your FSIL! It’s your day, your wedding. You’re not marrying her. My Future Sister-In-Law told me last week, that at the end of the day somebody is always going to have something to say, so don’t sweat it.
Post # 8
And apparently I have terrible grammar. Please forgive ALL my typos. so embarrassing.
Post # 9
We’re planning a non-traditional wedding and I think the majority of our guests know to expect that from us. We avoided negativity by simply being vague and positive when asked to share details. I’ve only shared details with those who I know are supportive and got my fill of other bride’s non-traditional plans over on http://www.tribe.offbeatbride.com!
Post # 10
@remijp: I’m *addicted* to offbeat bride!
Post # 11
I wouldn’t say our wedding is non-traditional (we are having bridal parties, I’m wearing white, having speeches, etc), but it’s extremely laid back. During our ceremony, we’re having a dear friend do a reading from “Oh! The Places You’ll Go” by Dr. Seuss. Also, our recessional song is a sing-a-long (Take Me Out To The Ball Game)
We’re also not doing the bouquet or garter toss. I just find them embarrassing, personally. We’re also doing a cupcake toast – instead of a cake cutting, we’re going to intertwine arms and each bite a cupcake, since we’re not doing a cake.
Most people have been receptive to our ideas. I know they’re not for everyone and that’s fine, but we’re really happy incorporating some unique ideas. Just remember – if you’re lucky, you get one wedding day. Have fun making it your own!
Post # 12
We aren’t doing any of that stuff.
– Secular ceremony with a Pagan sauce (handfasting, Celtic readings). We’re leaving that bit out to most people, as we have lots of very Christian family members. Short ceremony, maybe 10 minutes?
– Non-traditional music for the processional (no separate song for me, either), recessional, and our announcement into the reception.
– No receiving line.
– No cake cutting (no cake, just cupcakes and a s’mores bar).
– No glass clinking.
– No head table.
– No family dances (just a first dance).
– No garter or bouquet toss.
Most of this, people will find out when they get there. It’s our wedding, so we’ll do what we please.
Post # 13
non-traditional here! paris elopement, just him and me. no family, no friends. just us.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Hmm Here’s the ever growing list:
Ceremony will be a Christian with Handfasting
Food will all be gluten free
No garter or flower toss
No receiving line
Best man will be a woman
The wedding will be at Disney. I think some eyes will roll but tough cookies its our wedding so eat the food and sit down.
Post # 15
No bridal party. I’m having my guy friend be my Maid/Matron of Honor. His uncle is marrying us. Backyard wedding. We’ll have our diggs there, chihuahua and irish wolfhound. Along with his uncle’s dogs, a great dane, golden retriever. Lol. But we have a run grass area for them. No traditional wedding introductions, throwing the bouquet, gater… Instead of a champagne toast we’re going to have a tequila toast. A taco cart for food and a margarita bar. And I’m wearing a short ivory dress. Fiance is wearing converse.
Post # 16
@dewingedpixie: It’s too bad our weddings aren’t closer then we could check each other’s out!
Steampunk, purple dress for me, brocade tailcoat for him with tall leather boots, corsets and bustle skirts, brocade vests, bowler and top hats (maybe a pith helmet in there too!), reception in the Animal Kingdom at Disney (rich greens, blues and golds for linens…think peacock)
Still planning but it’s getting there!