(Closed) Non-traditional brides

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re not doing the bouquet toss, garter removal/toss, special dances with parents or special bride/groom exit. That’s all I can think of right now but like you I still have some time to switch things up! lol

Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We aren’t announcing the wedding party & bride and groom into the reception.

We probably won’t do the bouquet or garter toss either.

We also aren’t doing a “bride & groom exit” because we aren’t going to go on our honeymoon until the following year and we’ll also be having an afterparty & brunch the next day.

Post # 6
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Winter12: Exactly, I’m not a huge “center of attention” type person either.

Although the wedding party will be arriving to the cocktail hour (with us) on a boat, but no announcement. I mean we are being announced at the end of the ceremony.

Post # 7
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we’re leaving out some of those things, too… we won’t be having

bouquet/garter toss

father/mother dance

emcee or bride/groom announcement



i don’t like what i feel is the “pageantry” of most weddings i attend.  our reception will be much more of a laid back party than formal typical reception.  i, too, don’t really like being the center of attention, but i do like to be a good hostess and see my guests having fun, eating deliscious food, and enjoying adult beverages!  🙂

Post # 8
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No dancing. People can if they REALLY want to but no dance floor set up and just a classical band playing during reception. Might be a bride and groom first dance but not sure how to fit that in yet.

No favors at the wedding. It is destination so we are going to have a gift basket for the guests when they arrive at the hotel.

Going to remove “obey” from our vows.


Post # 9
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We did not have favors

We were married by a friend who got ordained online


Post # 10
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Non-traditional things:

  • No bouquet toss
  • No garter removal/toss
  • I wasn’t given away by my dad
  • No Bride/Groom or bridal party announcement into the reception
  • We gave a donation to a non-profit in lieu of favors
  • We had a live band playing the ceremony music (electric guitars, drums, etc.)
  • Completely non-traditional music (my husband’s a musician)

There was probably more, but those are the bigger things that come to mind.

Post # 11
1555 posts
Bumble bee

No garter toss. I plan on having a brooch bouquet so there will be notossing that and I don’t want to single out my ingle friends…who probably number in the 5 range – my bridal party.

There will be no ckae smashing in the face. I want to enjoy it, not have it smeared into my eyes and earlobes.

Post # 12
4162 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No bouquet/garder toss
No cake (maybe just cupcakes instead with the top tier of a cake to save for our 1 year)
No first dance, no father/daughter, mother/son dance
Morning ceremony/afternoon reception (which some people can’t wrap their heads around.)
I’ll be walking down the aisle alone
No head table or sweetheart table.  We’ll just be sitting on the same level as our guests, with our immediate family at our table.  Our wedding party will sit with their dates.  We don’t want to be elevated and look “mightier”, even though it’s our day
And I probably won’t wear heels under my gown.  Instead I’ll wear my neon green allstars which are much more comfortable!

Post # 13
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We will be having

-no bouquet toss (i’ll be carrying a single orchid, and my Future Mother-In-Law will be replanting it and attempting to keep it alive after the wedding!  Good luck I say.)

-DEFINITELY no garter toss (do i want 100 people looking at my cellulite?  No thank you)

-There will be LOTS of dancing, but not of the mother-son father-daughter variety, and our “first dance” will hopefully involve the whole wedding!

-No bridesmaids or groomsman – just a maid of dishonour (baby out of wedlock and living in sin) and a best lady or best dude – my fiance hasn’t chosen yet.

-No cake smashing


Post # 14
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m leaving out pretty much everything you ladies mentioned. I really just want a party with good food, I don’t care about the pagentry like @simplifiedbride said.

I’m not having a bridal party, just a flowergirl and that’s because she is our daughter and is really excited about everything wedding related.

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