(Closed) Non-traditional cocktail style reception – Suddenly nervous to death!!!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 46
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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brew520:  your wedding is going to be SO MUCH FUN!

I just did my engagement party like this and i found that there were so many benefits.. people mingle more and seem to have more fun. no one get’s “stuck” at a boring table just speaking to the people right near them. & as one of the guests of honor, i found it was so much easier to mingle and spend real time with my guests (as opposed to the obligatory table rounds). i also found that people were aware that there were not enough seats for everyone to stay parked, so they ate and then vacated for the next person. we had sit down tables, lounge type seating, 5 bar tables with chairs, a swing and some cocktail tables and it was more than enough… 

here is what else i noticed, people didn’t eat as much, but they drank lots… we had plenty of food leftover but not as much booze, beer and wine as i would have thought. (and we purchased TONS of booze, people brough booze and it just went) we had quite a few tipsy guests… so make sure people eat however you can! something about these types of parties causes people to eat less. 

in the throws of the party, people will care less about the seating and won’t even realize that they don’t have an “assigned seat” and then you’ll have people that complain no matter what.  i think you party is going to be wonderful and i think you’re navigating this whole situation very gracefully. hopefully, you can just block it all out and just focus on getting excited!! 

Post # 47
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The older people will care if no seats.  Trust me.  When that happens to my wealthy spinster aunt, she goes into the ladies room and discretely writes a very small check.

Post # 48
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Your wedding sounds like a blast to me!

My only worry is the pay to park. I don’t think I would mind too too much if I was told in advance. You mentioned in an update that it is on your wedding website. Is it anywhere else? We have a wedding website and oddly enough the younger crowd is not checking the website, but the older is. Maybe try and pass the info along by word of mouth. I don’t drink so I rarely go to a wedding with cash.

Depending on the age of your crowd, the lack of seats might be an issue, but I think adding those extra chairs off to the side should help. I have seen people post on the bee that it was hard to hold food & drink and eat at the same time, so you might see a little of that.

It sounds like it will be a blast. Please don’t stress if some people gripe. Even if you had a “traditional” sit down meal people will complain. You can’t make everyone happy.

Post # 51
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

That soundso awesome! i would love to go to a brewery wedding! My weddimg was in nyc people had to pay to park or use public transportation to get there, it was buffet and cocktail kind of style very informal no assigned seats and not enough seats for everyone but almost Enough and high tops And lounge furnitue which helped to add to the relaxed atmosphere. We had mostly long tables of 12 for formal seating, then couches and some chairs for loung seating, some coffee tables and outdoor sofas and a few outdoor tables that could hold 5 people and some littl side tables with 2 Adirondack chairs  so a good variety of seating and groupings. We had great music and a lot of people were dancing so that helped with not having enough seats. We reserved two tables for bridesmaid and groomsmen and their dates but other people who were friends with them ended up sitting there too lol it worked out fine people are adults and sat where they wanted or needed to, if the were any problems I didn’t hear about them. Everyone had an amazing time and said it was the most fun wedding they have ever been to and that they were so glad they weren’t constantly interrupting their fun with another course or a speech or stuffy formality. We also didn’t have champagne, people toasted with their drinks and it was fine. I had to send someone to get a drink for me and hubby real fast though because when they started speeches I was caught without a drink in my hand since we did speeches right after the first dance lol. So make sure you have a drink for the toasts! Otherwise relax and have fun and congrats on picking the best party format I think a wedding could have! Lol 

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