Post # 1
Is anyone else dealing with drama because they’re not wearing a very wedding-y wedding dress?
I ordered this dress (not my pictures, obviously):
It arrived yesterday, and I love it. I’ve loved sequins (and copper ones in particular) forever, and when else am I going to have the chance to wear a dress like this?
Anyway, I was super excited and showed a few people, and they’ve told me that I’m not going to stand out enough, it doesn’t look bridal, I can’t have a formal wedding in this dress, it’s sad that nobody’s going to see me in a real wedding dress, etc. I’m starting to second-guess my choice, but maybe I just need a thicker skin.
Did anyone else get criticized for not wanting to wear a white or ivory dress/not wanting a ballgown? Did you change your mind or stick to your original choice? Whatever you chose, do you regret it?
Post # 3
A wedding dress is any dress you decide to wear to your wedding. That dress is awesome and you should wear what you want! Other people should mind their own business.
Post # 4
I just want to say that I really love that dress! I cant help much because I always say you should do whatever you want as long as its gorgeous…but people often disagree with me. However, the dress is stunning and you have great taste!
Post # 5
@AxolotlFan: here is a fact, you would have a hard time not standing out
YOU are the BRIDE, so maybe tell ppl in invited no matalics or make a dress code where everyone is to wear a white dress but u 😛 that would be a fun twist and you would have no trouble standing out then
if you want to shine and sparkle who can you not stand out in a dress that does just that (maybe have the brides maids all wear ivory and cream in mixed lacesd the shorter dresses) then you would def max the bride factor throug hte shiny spark and formality and being the only one with colour in the party
do that dress you love it wear it rock it and if you change your mind … go to a formal new years party (maybe a masked one) wear it there and wear a white dress … but i think both you and i know you can rock that shiny dress and be as bridal as you wanan be
Post # 6
Ugh story of my life. People say the stupidest shit when you are planning a wedding, everyone around you becomes an “expert” I love your dress choice, I’m sure you will look gorgeous.
Post # 7
I am in the same boat! i ended up going dress shopping by myself because I was tired of other peoples opinions. Wear what you love and everyone will know you are the bride. You don’t need a big poofy dress to prove it. It’s a beautiful dress and if it makes you happy I say wear it!
Post # 8
Wear whatever makes you happy.
I did not wear white or a ball gown, I wore a sleek platinum gown and trust me, I stood out from everyone else. My girlfriend who just got married wore the most phenomenal Vera Wang mermaid and it was dark purple. She looked stunning.
Post # 9
Omg I love the idea of having everyone wear white!
Post # 10
Hey, it’s your wedding, who cares what others say! There may be traditions on what to wear but there are no rules! Don’t let others get to you! 🙂
Post # 11
“do whatever you want as long as it’s gorgeous…” I like that!
@littletigers: @janinaPK: @RubyStar:
Thank you! I was super excited about it until today.
Thanks! I like the idea of bridesmaids in white. They’re the ones who are not at all behind this dress choice, though. They might be too superstitious to wear white.
I ended up buying this when I went by myself. The other times, there were too many opinions.
That sounds beautiful. I’m not sure where the “you won’t stand out” objection comes from. It’s a floor-length dress that’s covered in sparkly things.
Post # 12
First of all, anything a bride wears on her wedding day, by principle, is bridal. Be it a big ballgown, simple evening dress or a shirt and jeans. Second, your dress is gorgeous and, as other PPss have already noted, very sparkly – there is no way that you will not stand out and NO ONE can overshadow a bride on her wedding day. If there are any concerns about standing out, dress your bridal party in cocktail dresses and set the dress code for the event as cocktail attire so you will be the only one in a long dress.
You should be able to wear what you want, what you feel beautiful in and what you are happy with on your wedding day – no one else should dictate that choice for you.
You should check out Offbeat Bride for some great posts about non-traditional dresses. This is my personal favourite: http://offbeatbride.com/2011/11/is-this-bridal-enough-the-great-white-lie. I particularly love the line “Sometimes I wonder who could be so stupid as to show up at my wedding at my request, and then not remember I’m the fucking bride without a visual cue.” That’s along the lines of what I feel like saying to people who give me crap about my colour choice lol.
What I do say are the following: Yes, I’m wearing red. No, I will not regret not wearing white or ivory. Why? Because I don’t view my wedding day as the only chance I get to wear a white ballgown because I have no desire to ever wear a white ballgown. I loathe white and never wear it therefore why would I suddenly get a personality change and wear it on my wedding day?
Post # 13
I say pair that dress with an elaborate veil, possibly with champagne lace, and there will be no doubt about if you look bridal. A traditional bridal accessory might be enough to quiet the doubters. It’s a beautiful dress, I’d love to see pictures of you in it.
Post # 14
its your wedding what do they have to be superstitious over, only the bride gets to be superstitious and clearly you are not … then tell them creams and ivory off whites :p to get around it just think of how pretty that would be now see you in ur amazing metailic dress in the middle 😀
Post # 16
Bridal dress is any dress a bride chooses to wear on HER day..
You do what makes you comfortable.. You seem as a non traditnal bride so don’t really pay attention to the classical/tradional people telling you otherwise..it is your day! You decide anything and everything!