(Closed) Non-traditional engagement rings…any regrets?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@RunnerGirl15:  I think sapphires are actually more traditional than diamonds. I don’t think you can go wrong with a sapphire or a diamond.

I mean look at Kate Middleton’s ring… if she can rock it as an engagement ring, I am pretty sure that you can.

Post # 4
6397 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have a pink amethyst ring. No regrets from me!

Post # 5
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a ruby and 20 years later I still love it! And sapphire’s beautiful too. I love seeing other women with coloured engagement rings!

Post # 6
11 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

sorry for the huge picture, here is my peach champagne sapphire. I love it!! its one of a kind and made special just for me. I never regret it for a second and every time I look at it I realize how special and prefect it is.

Post # 8
2248 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I have a purple sapphire in a non traditional setting that I love to death. I’ve been wearing her almost 5 months now not a single regret. I couldnt be happier that we went with what I wanted over what is currently popular :).

If your considering sapphires look at Krikawa and check out the designer cut stones. They have more instock than on the page. The celestial compass by Larry Woods has almost as much fire as a diamond! I love mine!

Post # 10
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@RunnerGirl15:  Go for the sapphire! They are timeless. Fiance always tells me that ‘princesses get sapphires’. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
2635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I started out not wanting a diamond ring (I actually started out not even wanting to get married so much has evolved since then!). We purchased a cushion cut smoky quartz ring, which I loved! It had that gorgeous brown sparkle. After a year, the stone got all scratched up (not a very hard stone it turns out) There were also issues with the setting, which was too delicate for the large stone. So I changed my mind and wanted a mor subtantial setting (larger shank, safer prongs) and thought diamonds would be great because they are the hardest stone. Another issue with the quartz is that it gets cloudy quite quickly as dirt really sticks to it. I slowly came to love the beautiful white sparkle from diamonds and ended up getting an amazing ring. No diamond is too large in the setting and they make an intricate flower design. I’m in love with it πŸ™‚ I would say it is a non-traditional diamond ring.

Sapphires are quite hard though, so they can withstand being worn everyday. 

Initial ring:

My ring πŸ™‚

Post # 13
28 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

no regrets having my peridot, it’s my other half birthstone, I myself have a 2.25 diamond VVS 1 solitaire ring, and I preffer the peridot as an engagement ring that he gave to me as RHR, I’m more on meaningful not tradition, go get what you want you’re the one who’s gonna wear it screw the people who will comment it is non traditional Sealed I also have Sapphire too I got on my birthday 2yrs ago, and they’re amazing for everyday use.

Post # 14
44 posts

@RunnerGirl15:  this is my exact situation πŸ™ !!! I so badly want a cushion cut halo with a very pale lavender sapphire but i feel like maybe i want what i orignally loved, just a plain rund diamond ya know? 

Post # 15
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I thought I would always want a traditional diamond solitaire or 3 stone… My Fiance and I decided to pick out our own rings, for our own reasons, and I have been very picky, indecisive, and frustrated about it all – but have finally found my perfect ring, a 1.5ct pear cut london blue topaz. If you want a non-traditional ring, go for it! I wanted my ring to be special to me and always remind me about the love and amazing relationship that my Fiance and I have, not just a piece of jewelry to show off. They just never seemed to feel right and I was always bummed about my ring(s) until I went with my heart and picked the ring that I truly wanted, not just the status quo. The funny thing is that we have done the same with the wedding – started with the standard and slowly found our way to what we really wanted, a small private beach ceremony. Go figure. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I understand where you’re coming from. I never once considered a non-diamond until I joined these boards. Admittedly, I never really knew how much a diamond ring cost until I joined these boards, too. I’m pretty traditional and when my SO and I started discussing getting engaged, I went to a jewelry store (alone) just to try things on and see what I liked. I knew from WB what I liked on OTHER people, but I’d never looked at an actual diamond ring on my finger. The salesman started with the blingiest ring they had, which was probably the biggest mistake he could have made. I felt uncomfortable with it on my finger. I’m a very low maintenance person and don’t enjoy attracting a lot of attention in my direction, so it was the wrong avenue to take. Now I know, I thought. I tried on more modest rings and felt much more comfortable, but still couldn’t believe the sticker price.


I don’t believe in the 3 month salary standard. I’d never want to know there was 3 months of hard work just sitting on my finger. That’s when I started looking at alternatives. I am attached to the idea of having a “natural” stone, so morganite and moissanite didn’t really appeal to me. A sapphire seemed perfect: my SO and I were both born in September and it has so much symbolism. A white sapphire was all I could think about, but most of my friends told me just to keep my mouth shut because giving him that much direction would take “the fun” out of ring shopping for him. I listened and kept my mouth closed. I wanted him to enjoy picking out a ring without feeling like he had strict criteria. I also wondered if in say 10 years, I would be disappointed that my one big chance to really be spoiled with a ring was lost on practicality.


I’m 26 years old and have one pair of small diamond studs that I never wear. That’s when I realized: maybe I’m really just not a diamond girl. I always thought I would be because that’s what the wedding industry tells you to be. I consulted some bees about how to talk to my SO about a white sapphire and eventaully pleaded my case.


I’m still a waiting bee, so whether I wind up with a white sapphire or a diamond or any other stone is yet to be known. But I think if in your heart you are moved by a sapphire/gemstone ring, you should trust your gut!


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