Post # 1
To preface, we’re really happy with the way we decided to get “engaged”…I’m just looking for others who did it the same way we did!
We were talking about eloping for a long time, for many reasons, and then decided to just go ahead and have a very small (25 ppl) wedding instead. We then debated whether an engagement ring made sense, since I’m not a big jewelry girl, but a few select family will be whispering if there’s no ring at all.
So we picked out a non-traditional ring together (1/3 ct Sapphire & white gold, on clearance, haha), and I’m paying for it since there was no official “proposal” and I’m the one who’ll be wearing it, after all.
We’ve lived together for 3 yrs, are so happy and contented with each other, already feel like we’re married, and just want to celebrate with our nearest and dearest. So the ring is just embellishment.
Anyone else do the same (or similar)?
Post # 3
We’re not quite going that route, but I am helping to pay for my engagement ring. I’ve always kinda thought it was silly that the bride ‘couldn’t’ help pay for it at least since your finances are about to be combined, anyway. Congrats and it sounds like you two are really happy with your engagement :)!
Post # 4
We debated having a ring since I’m also not a jewelry person. Eventually we found one though it wasn’t officially an engagement ring per se. It’s a pearl and was pretty inexpensive as far as rings go.
BUT (and this is way aside), would it shock you to know that your ring is actually pretty traditional? Sapphires were THE stone for engagements until DeBeers came along and marketed up the diamond. You’re fabulous old school!
Post # 5
@MissHelen: Awesome! I love hearing about the ‘true’ traditions, not just the wedding industry’s party line 🙂 Thanks!
Post # 6
I personally didn’t follow that route (only because we had a family diamond so didn’t need to blow a lot of money on a ring), but I have plenty of friends that went sans-engagement ring and then both wore plain wedding bands. To each their own!
Post # 7
whatever is right for you is between you and your Fiance. noone should judge you or tell you that it’s wrong. and if you like your ring, then that’s all that matters! I think a sapphire ring sounds like it would be a beautiful ring to have! congratulations on your wedding! and, everything my husband and i did is considered “non-traditional”. he never actually proposed, i never had an engagment ring. We got married at the courthouse. we didn’t tell our parents and family until the next day. when we got married, we had only been dating again for a month and a half (long distance at that. we dated awhile back, when we were stationed on the same base, but we went to different bases). he had to leave the day after we got married, and i went back to work. (i couldn’t get leave for more than one day at that time) we are having an actual wedding at the end of janurary, though. i couldn’t be more happy about that. i kind of wish i had a real proposal, though, but it wasn’t meant to be. but hey…when are you getting married? congratulations again! don’t let people knock you down for what you’re doing.
Post # 8
Cute story, nothing wrong with helping the process along.
We’re untraditional too. Talked about it 15 months (dating over 4 years before it happened, I’m in my mid 20s he’s in his late 20s) and he got sick of my asking questions so he told mewhen it would happen. well, he was going to keep me waiting afterall since the diamond ring didn’t get delivered and I said “just do something else, its not about the ring” so he got an antique ring (I knew he was going out to get one) and he proposed
Post # 9
We did something similar. We figured out a year or so before we got engaged when we would plan to get married (three years from then) and then decided how long an engagement we wanted, and THEN when that time rolled around, bought a ring together (he paid, but it was a non-diamond and not super expensive), and started telling people we were engaged.
We thought about skipping the ring, too, since I hate wearing jewelry. I initially figured I’d only wear it for special occasions, but then started realizing I LIKE wearing it. Partly because it’s pretty, but mostly because the cheeseball in me likes looking at it and thinking of him when I’m at work.