Non traditional Islamic wedding – convert

posted 7 days ago in Muslim
Post # 2
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Helper bee

 Brides don’t say anything at the wedding. Any stipulations they need to include can be included in the marriage contract that is signed by both parties. But I guess you’re doing a western wedding you can say whatever you want. If you want it to sound like the ijab and qabul you can state i accept the mahar of $XXXX in marriage responding to his proposal of marriage. Saying that you’re going to be an obedient wife is cringey though, even for a Muslim like me. I would never say that in my wedding vows. Don’t make promises you can’t guarantee. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Asha1002 :   malayna :  I also cringe when I hear ‘obedient’ Please don’t vow this,

 

You’re not a dog who needs to follow instructions. You’re a woman who deserves respect & to make her own choices throughout your entire marriage.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Also your original pledge states that you are accepting marriage in accordance with instructions of the Quran and prophet, but you are doing a western ceremony with vows, that are not in accordance with the marriage instructions in the Quran. The marriage in the Quran requires a mahr (obligatory bridal money paid to the bride from the groom) as stated in Surah An Nisa. I don’t suggest you use make any references to the Holy Quran or the prophet in your vows.

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