(Closed) Non-traditional name change

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

if it’s the “having the same last name” thing, most wives in Asia do NOT take their husbands’ names and keep their maiden and seeing that Asia’s population is the highest, I’d say most people in this world don’t take their husbands’ names 😉

in the end, it’s really up to what you want. if you don’t like it, then don’t do it.


Post # 4
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you applied for your wedding license yet?  When I did apply, if I remember correctly, there were options for “non-traditional” names as well.  There was even space for the groom’s name change!

Post # 5
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Would his family feel offended if you don’t take his first name as your last name?
I like that name-it’s very flowy.. Amanda Ravinder. If you do decide to change your last name, definitely ask your FI’s opinon & make sure it’s something you both definitely can settle with- because it will stay with you for the rest of your lives.

Post # 6
1657 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

lol, my parents’ last names are exactly like that.

Except me and my siblings have our dad’s last name and my mom has a completely different last name. It was difficult explaining to Canadians that my parents were in fact not divorced or something haha.

Thankfully, I’m marrying a Canadian and taking his last name, not his first.

Would they care if you took his actual last name instead of his first name?

Post # 8
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@andiecandy:  Not at all weird to change it down the road! I know multiple people who’ve changed their names only once they were having children. The one where I know the story, they looked at old family names from people they didn’t even know and picked a family name from several generations back to be their new last name.

Post # 9
11343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@andiecandy:  Based on everything you’ve written, I think you will have the best of all worlds if you follow the tradition of your husband’s culture and take his first name.  After all, not only will you and your potential future children all have the same last name, ALL of you will SHARE your DH’s first name, just in a different position. At least this way, all of you will have one name in common. 🙂


Post # 10
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

How the name change works depends on the state you live in. We are both changing our names to a 3rd unrelated option. We didn’t think it was fair for just one of us to go through all the paperwork and hassle, and we wanted the same last name, so here we are. It requires the legal name change route (in Maryland, file something at the courthouse, publish in the newspaper, judge issues an order changing your name, takes forever.) I would definitely not do it until you close on your house. That’s complicated enough as it is. (As a side note, we were living together before we bought the house, but it’s in just my name because we weren’t married and -ahem- my parents helped us with the down payment. I found out after we will have to pay closing costs again to add him to the mortgage and deed, go through all the financial paperwork, etc. Just a warning.)

just like @akirasan:  my mom didn’t change her name when my parents got married. My sister and I have my dad’s last name and our mom’s last name is our middle name that neither of us use. HIs parents subsequently got divorced, and he’s a lot closer to his mom and stepdad, but has his dad’s last name. We decided it made more sense to just pick an all new one, for us, in our new family.

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