(Closed) Non-traditional name changes

posted 10 years ago in Names
Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I know a couple who was planning on doing a lot of missionary work in Spanish speaking countries. They chose a last name that meant “outsiders” in Spanish. They both adopted the last name and are really excited about it.

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

rachiecakes    DH took my name.  He loves it.  It is pretty cool 😉

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What I want to do is to have boy change his last name from his father’s (a rather distinctive name that in no way hyphenates well with mine) to his late mom’s last name (currently his middle name, but he also uses it for writing).

Then I would keep my last name and the kids would be MyLast-HisLast.

The problem is, he doesn’t want to have to tell his family he is changing his last name. His dad got a little upset when I joked he should change his to mine.

Post # 21
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Newbee

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@Rubies: If he used the other one… why not?

It’s like men feel they MUST pass a name on!

When I say my BF he could ALWAYS take MY last name (which is WAY cooler than his I might add) everyone just assumes I’m joking… but why should I be?

 

Once I explained to the BF that women changed their name because historically women do not have identities (the become a vessel of their husbands) ex. Mr. & Mrs. John Smith… he realized why I may have trouble with the though of changing my identity. 

Of course, that’s not the REASON we do it now… but subconsciously it’s why we still expect it to happen. I DO LOVE that taking your husband’s last name is almnost the COUNTER culture now 😉

When my BFF got married she took her husband’s last name but pronounced it differently, hahah. 

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