Post # 1
I know we have a lot of people on the board who are etiquette experts and know a lot about wedding formalities and others who are alternative and unique in their thinking. So I would like an honest opinion from all types of bees on this idea.
Background: Fiance and I are having a non-reglious ceremony outside in front of a fountain at a Zoo performed by his brother (ordained via the interwebs). We have traditional and non-traditional elements to our wedding. For the unity ceremony, I wanted us to create a layered beer or a “Half-and-Half” or a “Black-and-Tan” (currently that name is out of vogue) and both take a sip out of it. He is Irish (Guinness) and I am a mix of things mainly Czech (lager) so it’s amusing to use and we are also HUGE beer fans.
Question: Do you think some guests would find this offensive/inappropriate or most people wouldn’t care. Our guests are about 50/50 our friends (early 30s late 20s) and our older relatives. We’ve already cleared it with the Zoo
Post # 2
Go for it.
I wanted to cut our hands and do a blood pact but was shot down for some reason.
Post # 3
I think it’s actually awesome and wish I’d thought of something like that! I pretty much don’t care what people think, unless I’m kicking puppies or doing cocaine. THEN they can voice their opinion to me. People should just accept people. Ya know?
Post # 4
I am not a fan of any unity ceremonies. Just a personal preference. However, you both sharing beer heritage is kind of fun. You know your crowd better in the end.
Post # 5
DH wanted to make entrance to our wedding contingent upon killing an animal and bringing it to cook at the reception. My brothers were all thrilled. Oddly enough, this also got shot down.
OP: I say go for it! It doesn’t too out there at all. I think it will be received well.
Post # 7
Ahahaha fabulous. When people got really ridiculous during wedding planning I threatened to sacrifice a chicken in the middle of the ceremony. Family members looked horrified, I think they thought I might do it.
Alas, the only chicken I could bring myself to sacrifice would be of the McNugget kind.
Post # 9
haha my Fiance begged to have a penguin as the ring bearer. Apparently the Zoo does not allow this. Huge bummer.
Post # 10
Honestly, this sound similar to an African tradition “libation ceremony” I have seen a few adaptations in the US but they all are pretty similar. No one ever questions it and its fairly quick. There is alcohol pourred into a fancy cup as there is a breif speech about ancestors and remembering your roots. A bit is poured on the ground in honor, and then the couple shares a sip. You may want to look to this as a template and then make it yourown.
I would probably execute it much like a sand ceremony, but place each beer in a nicer container than the bottles they come in. Then include the explination of the choices of beers in the wedding program that you pass out so you do not have to have that as part of speech in your wedding ceremony.
Post # 11
Thanks for this post! That is very interesting. Yeah, I bought a “black-and-tan” tool that fits over the top of a pint glass so we can pour the beers easier (traditionally done with a specific spoon and that’s just too hard) I want to get a special pint glass etched to pour the beers into.
Post # 12
I think that sounds cool. You are incorporating a little of both of you into your ceremony. I say go for it!
Post # 13
That sounds really awesome! Personally I’m not much of a fan of the unity candle or sand thing anyway, so this sounds like a cool twist.
Post # 14
I’m not a fan of any sort of u it’s ceremony (isn’t a wedding enough of a unity ceremony?) but this one does seem relevant to you as a couple.
Post # 15
I have friends that did a shot after saying I do at the alter. It was a surprise but it got lots of laughs and everyone seemed to enjoy it!