- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016 - Forsyth Park
I’m new to WeddingBee; this is my first post. I need advice, please. My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years proposed to me on August 4th of this year, and we have finally selected October 29, 2016 as our wedding date. We both want a non-traditional wedding, in some ways, and I need suggestions for how to make things go as smoothly as possible.
We’ve never really been traditional. I moved to Chicago from Savannah, GA to be with him, after knowing him for only four months, in June of 2010. I was 22, he was 27. He wanted to get married on Halloween, I wanted October 1st, so we compromised and made it the 29th. He doesn’t like being center of attention, and has actually told me from day one that he never wanted to get married or have children, but he knows it’s important to me, and he loves me and wants me to be happy, so he’s making it happen and going along with what I want. We’ll be paying for most of the wedding, and we need to save as much money as possible. With that being said, I still want everyone to have a great time. Family and friends will be traveling from Illinois, North Carolina, and Florida… I want it to be worth their time. We want our wedding to be fun, like a big party.
We’ll be saying “I do” in Forsyth Park in Savannah, Georgia, in front of a huge water fountain. Our guest list is at 58, including parents, the wedding party, and so on. The park is ours from 7:00 – 10:00 PM. Our invites say to arrive at 8:00 (we need time for the chairs to be set up), and the ceremony will begin at approx 8:20. There will be light decor, just lanterns along the aisle, and my wedding party will be carrying lanterns in place of bouquets. It will be a candlelight ceremony, with soft lighting from the fountain and pretty street lamps that line the brick pathway. We’ll walk across the park, after the ceremony, to a very nice restaurant with a rooftop bar and lounge area, where we’ll cut the cake, have some drinks and light appetizers, mingle until around 10:00, and then head out for a night out on the town… everything is within walking distance. There will be no bouquet or garter toss, no first dances, etc. We’ll pay for the appetizers and drinks at the first stop where we cut the cake, then everyone is responsible for their own drinks and food afterwards. We are making it clear that we do not want gifts! We have everything we need, and we really just want everyone to be there and have fun… nothing more.
Here’s where I’m having trouble… my photographer will start taking pictures of us at 2:00 PM. We’ll have a ‘first look’, then take pictures with our wedding party, parents, and so on. At 5:00, I want to have a dinner with my wedding party, the families, and close friends, but I need for them to pay for their food and drinks. Is that horrible? I’ve heard people say it’s cheap and in poor taste, and others say it’s okay because we’re not expecting gifts, and them paying for their dinner can be a gift of sorts. With that being said, should we invite EVERYone to the dinner? We would love to have them all there, but we’re not sure if it’s okay to ask since we won’t be paying for their meal. Everyone who is coming is a close friend, people we see and talk with almost daily. I don’t think they would have a problem with it, but I don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, at all. Maybe we can casually mention we’re meeting for dinner before the wedding?… and let them decide by telling them they’re welcome to join us if they like. Some people will have to get baby sitters, and probably won’t join us for dinner for the simple fact they’ll be out late with us after the ceremony.
What do you think we should do? Any suggestions are greatly appreciated! 🙂
P.S. I apologize for typing such a long post.