Post # 1
I am a second-time bride who was fortunate enough to have already had a truly lovely and special wedding day with my first husband … and still cherish those memories as he is a wonderful man.
I am blessed to be marying another wonderful man – and my best friend. This is his first marriage – but we both agree that we want little to do with tradition at our nuptuals.
We envision a casual party atmoshphere that involves us being there to greet guests as they arrive then simply pausing briefly for the exchange of vows. We are also looking for some alternative ideas to other wedding traditions.
I would love to hear your thoughts. I feel like we are leaning towards doing EVERYTHING in a non-traditional way, without making light of a very sacred event that we are both wanting to still honor.
Post # 3
We opted for a Sunday morning ceremony and brunch, instead of the traditional Saturday evening ceremony/dinner/dancing. We’ll have a nice pianist as background music, with no dancing, cake cutting, etc.
Post # 4
We also did a brunch. Like you, we wanted to greet our guests. So we did a coffee, tea and cupcake (no plates required) reception for an hour prior to our ceremony. We also made sure we had all of our photos done prior to this time, so that we were done and ready to meet and mingle with our guests. We used a hotel so the coffee reception was catered in a meeting room… which was decorated and seating was set up for the ceremony. After the ceremony we had brunch in a private room at the hotel’s restaurant (we had about 50 guests). It was wonderful! We received many compliments from our guests as to the flow and how personal it was… as we got to spend a lot of quality time with everyone by doing it this way.
But yes… no walk down any aisle, no cake cutting, no dancing.
There were some spontanious toasts and speeches during the brunch though 🙂
As for favors… I still sent our guests away with gift bags to remember our special day. As we did a brunch, I chose personalized mugs with our names and weddding date and the greeting/heading of “Love and Thanks”.
Post # 5
Honestly, I thought for sure, since this was my second marriage, I did not want all the hoopla and gala that went with my first wedding, and it has not turned out that way. It went from very small to very large. I think alot because it is his first and his family is helping me in ways I never had with my first marriage. We are not having the big dj, limos or fancy reception hall. We are getting married in his mom’s backyard, having the reception at a vfw hall and are having plastic plates and a self-catered dinner. But I am having a small bridal party(mainly my kids and neices), I am wearing a white dress(with red in it) and are having a wonderful gathering afterwards. But i am making it more of a celebration this time and not a way to impress everyone. I am still feeling like a princess without all the stress!
Post # 6
We are having a very small ceremony here at home for only our immediate family, and then a giant 80’s prom party the next night for all of our friends. We figured why have all of the stress…we love live music, and parties, so we just wanted to have fun. We’re having a couple of live 80’s cover bands to come play…it should be a ton of fun, plus I get to wear a funky 80’s prom gown. 🙂
Post # 8
Hi Ladies! I’m also a second time bride, but who’s always been wedding-obsessed. My first wedding was rushed, small, and not much fun due to the fact that our families didn’t get along, and I was pregnant and not feeling well. I know, break out the violins…lol. And although that marriage ended up not being a happy one, it did give me the loves of my life, my two children.
This time around, I’m marrying my best friend and the man of my dreams, and everyone around us couldn’t be happier. This is his first wedding, and although we are certainly not in our twenties, we’re still young and want to have a non-tradtional ceremony and service (ceremony outside, with my kids walking me downt the aisle, reception at a vintage car museum) and throw the biggest, most memorable party. This is my chance to have the wedding I always dreamed of, with the man I can’t live without. Don’t let being a second-time bride hold you back if you want to go over-the-top, there are no rules anymore. 🙂
@crazyhair, that sounds like so much fun!
Post # 9
Thank you GFerg…We are eloping as well. My fiance is on his 3rd and I am on my 2nd so we decided to put the money into a great vacation and have a party on our 1st anniversary
Post # 10
I am having a VERY intimate wedding and Brunch reception immediately to follow. It’s just family watching em get married and having some yummu food.
However, my two daughters will be flower girls, creating an isle of petals. My Son will be the ring bearer (who I think follows the FG’s?). And then I will walk myself down the isle, the the man I have been in love with for 12 years. I can hardly wait! 😀
Post # 11
I’m gonna do mine Friday and its gonna be in the woods.enchanted forest themed. my dogs gonna be my ring bearer and we won’t have a flower girl. It won’t be a religious ceremony either.
my fiancé is my best friend and also British lol. We’ll be 20 on our wedding day so were starting out young. Wish us luck!
Post # 12
We just had ours a week and a half ago, it was the most amazing day, it’s my 2nd his first, and we had the wedding he wanted, and the one I didn’t get the first time……Here’s one of our preveiw picsPhotography by A and J Imaging
Post # 13
@ginnwitt: Gorgeous purple dress!
Post # 14
@howtobeawife: Thanks, I really wasn’t sure if I should do it at first, but I have to say, I”m really glad I did.
Post # 15
I’m planning an evening wedding on a Friday. Initially I thought we would have a cocktail hour, then ceremony, then dinner. A friend felt I needed to do the cocktails after the ceremony, but given what was stated above, I am thinking about going with my gut instincts and having cocktails first.
We are having open bar, and I figured some appetizers ie fruit and cheese, with the open bar, then ceremony, then dinner.
I’m not sure how to gather everyone for the ceremony, that is the only weird part. All of my stuff is happening in the same room, so if the tables are set up will it be weird and will people sit at the tables instead of the seating for the ceremony?
Post # 16
@Jane77677: Put up a huge chalk board at the entrance where you do a ‘step by step’ of the ceremony to make sure your guests don’t get confused. What the heck, they love you enough to be there so they’ll sure as hell be taking instruction because it would make it easier for everyone 🙂
We are getting married on Friday the 13th (this is when we celebrated our first anti-valentines day, Friday the 13th of Feb 2009). We are having light lunch together before the ceremony, just us. Then we have drinks and then we have ceremony and reception. We are having a handfasting ceremony. Ahahaha, so opposite to my first wedding.