(Closed) non traditional wedding/ceremony/bride etc…

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010


I’m not in the same situation but I did have my wedding ceremony at the same venue as the reception and my guests were trilled.

Could you give the rings to your officiant before the ceremony, or could your husband carry them?

I think it would be appropriate to have your mom walk to you down but that really depends on your relationship with your mom.

As for the witnesses, I would ask some close friends, explain to them that they aren’t a Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man, they can wear what they like (within reason) and can be seated in the front so that they are available to sign.  I wouldn’t have them walk down the aisle or stand beside your hubby because then they’d be in the traditional roles. 

Congrats and happy planning!

Post # 4
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I chose not to have a bridal party (I never really understood the point after being in quite a few weddings) so we are just going to have someone attending like my sister or fiance’s good friend hand us the rings.  We have a Justice of the Peace marrying us and we are getting married in VT and technically don’t need a witness.  I am walking down the aisle with my dad but I would say you could have anyone do it.  Your mom, if you have a brother, close male friend, etc.  Or I actually like the idea of walking in together .  I think that could be very cool!

Post # 5
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You could walk yourself down or have your mother walk with you. 

You could give the rings to the Officiant to hold, I have seen that before.

We had our mothers sign our marriage certificates, it was just easier for us, but you could “honor” anyone you would be comfortable with.

Congrats!  Welcome to the Hive.  It is really nice to see another “older” bride getting married for the first time, YAY for us 😉

Post # 6
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I don’t have any additional suggestions to add, so I’ll just say ‘grats! Yay for non-traditional brides (I’m one too)! 🙂

Post # 7
151 posts
Blushing bee

I just had a male friend just walk me down so I wasn’t alone.  Isn’t it Jewish tradition to have both parents and grandparents walk you down?  Since your father is not in the picture, maybe just your mom could do it.


I saw this on some post, not sure if it was here on the bee, they were going to have the bride wait at the back of the ailse after the groom came in.  Then he walks back to her and takes her arm or hand and they walk down the ailse together.  I wish I had thought of that, I think it would have been fantastik and touching

Post # 8
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

When I married the second time, my cousin escorted me down the aisle (pretty much estranged from all of my immediate family). He didn’t give me away-that part was left out.

But, I saw something recently that I loved….the bride’s mother walked her to the beginning of the aisle, then left her and proceeded ahead, alone. Then the bride walked half-way alone. When she got about half-way, her groom met her and they walked the rest of the way, together.

It was supposed to represent the three phases of  her life-early, leaning on her family, middle, her independent self, relying on no one, and the last symbolized her joining with her groom to walk the rest of their lives together.

I wish I had had that. It was beautiful.

As for the rings-could you have his on your thumb and he have yours on his little finger?

Post # 9
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I love that idea, kybride!!!

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