Post # 1
Hi ladies! I got married in May 20th!! The day was beautiful, but it was out of my home province (Ontario), in my husbands home province (PEI…a 17 hour drive, 2.5 hour flight from Ontario). My close family and friends made it out, but a lot of others couldn’t make it. My grandparents offered to throw a party at their home (farm) in Ontario, for everyone who couldn’t come. I was allowed to invite friends who couldn’t make it, and all I have to do is show up and look pretty, and they’re taking care of everything else (although they’re in their 70s so I am helping them clean up the property, the house, and do some planning because they honestly can’t do it themselves!)
Now here’s where my question comes in. One of the people who was unable to attend was my great grandmother. Her health is failing, and I’m the only great-grandchild even close to marriage age, so I’m probably the only one she will see be married. Her pastor was my pastor for many years before I moved for post-secondary, and I know it would mean the world to her to see him do some sort of ceremony-esque thing with us. We’re happy to do it, with me in my dress and hubby in his suit, for anyone who wants to see. The question I have is: does anyone have suggestions of what we could do? The party is only two months after the wedding, and the actual ceremony will be being played on a DVD later for people to watch as they please, so I don’t feel like redoing the whole ceremony, or doing a renewal of vows is totally right. Some sort of marriage blessing? Vows? Has anyone else done something like this?
NOTE: I want to do something for my great-grandma, so please no suggestions of “don’t do anything” because that’s not what I’m asking!
Post # 2
Did she say she wants you to do a pretend ceremony? That seems awfully weird to me. Especially if you have a DVD of the actual ceremony.
Why dont you just have dinner and the pastor can lead a prayer for you or something?
Post # 3
A few weeks ago, I sang for a convalidation mass – the couple had been married legally for a few years and now wanted to have a ceremony to have the marriage officially recognized by our church. They followed the same basic pattern for a regular wedding, but some things were different – no ring blessing, different vows – to reflect it being an affirmation of a marriage already existing instead of a re-marriage or a vow renewal. Of course, this isn’t for everyone. But if you and your g-grandma already have a bond with a particular pastor, ask the pastor! He’ll probably have some great ideas, and he also knows your grandma’s tastes.
Post # 4
I think it’s a lovely idea to do something for your great grandmother. Since you already got officially married and will be showing a dvd of the actual marriage ceremony at this event, I wouldn’t do a full blown second ceremony at this event. I would simply have this pastor invite you two up to the front of the room before the dinner and give a brief blessing. He could read a passage from the bible or some other reading that is meaningful to you, and then join your hands and ask for God’s blessing on your marriage or something like that. No exchange of vows or rings or anything – just a simple blessing, so your great grandmother gets to see the pastor joining your hands and you standing up there in your dress, but it doesn’t feel like a fake second wedding or anything insincere. Just a thought!