(Closed) None of my friends came to my shower :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@meranda:  I’m so sorry to hear that! It’s nice that your Future Mother-In-Law is supportive and cares though! Try to look at the good side. Lots of women FMIL/MIL who are not supportive and who are just difficult. Again sorry your friends were crappy though.

Post # 19
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Honey bee

@meranda:  Ok, but that still doesn’t mean they aren’t bummed about not attending. Just a thought.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@meranda:  That’s really fucked up on their parts.  It really is.  Would they like the same treatment from all of their friends when it’s their turn to have a bridal shower?

I hope you update us because I would love to hear what their excuses are or if they even have the balls to address it.

I would be polite but be honest that you were hurt and embarassed that nobody showed up.  Those girls need to feel a pang of guilt and awkwardness about what they did.

Post # 21
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634 posts
Busy bee

Did you invite them to the shower before or after you decided to elope?

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m unsure of why her eloping would have anything to do the friends not coming as some of the pp’s are suggesting?

If one of my best friends decided to get married and go elope, I would be thrilled for them! Not so torn and upset about it that I LIE about coming to their shower and totally bail on them. 

@meranda: Sounds like they aren’t being very good friends right now. I can’t imagine sweeping this under the rug, because it would be really hard for me to not hold a grudge without talking to them about it. 

 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You need to have a discussion with them about this because that’s majorly fucked up.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@meranda:  Wow! I’m so sorry that this happened! That is so not cool on the part of your friends! Have you spoken to any of these friends since about why this happened? I know that I would have a really hard time not letting it change our friendship.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee

@meranda:  I’m sorry, that really sucks! No advice but I’ve been that girl where people must be wondering where her friends and family are and I know how embarassing and uncomfortable that can be.

Look on the brightside, you seem to marrying into a very nice family!

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ll be honest, I wouldn’t go to a shower if I hadn’t been invited to the wedding, although I would RSVP no instead of saying yes then no-showing. But it is very possible you’ve offended your friends by excluding them from the wedding. It’s also incredibly confusing to say you’re having (or had) a shower but you’re eloping, because eloping is supposed to be a secret. So people may be generally confused about the whole shower thing.

Post # 28
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Busy bee

@lolita39:  For the same reasons you shouldn’t invite anybody to your shower if you don’t plan on inviting them to your wedding. Now, that doesn’t excuse the guests’ behavior; but that is the reason people are asking.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@meranda:  OP, I’m sorry to hear about this behavior of your friends. It is tacky and graceless on their part–and so many acted this way!–to accept an invitation and to then not show up.

I can see how you would be hurt and embarrassed.

 

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