Post # 77
I am really sorry you experienced that… I know it is hurtful, but maybe your friends are hurt that you are eloping or getting married….. even though people can seem like they are on board and supportive, weddings and funerals seem to bring out the worst in people. My sister and I have always been very close,but I saw a side of her I never thought I would have seen…. and even when she marreid someone who I knew was a jerk because of my own personal experience with him, I supported her in her decisoin because it was her journey.
I will say this, sometimes getting married shows you who your true friends are and you will likely gain new ones through your union. It sounds like you are really blessed to be marrying into a great family.
After everything settles, why don’t you pick the closet friend and have dialouge with her, perhaps she can shed some insight on what happened with the other friends.
Whatever happens, don’t let them put a damper on your happiness and you enjoy the decisoin you and your Fiance have made.
It will be ok.
Post # 78
and maybe your friends are upset because they thought they should be the ones throwing you a shower and they weren’t included in the planning process.
Post # 79
Unacceptable. Unfortunately people are very flaky these days. I’ve been burned in the past and if this happened to me, I would be looking for new, dependable and supportive, friends in the future.
Post # 80
@MsYankee: I was thinking the same thing. 2-3 friends okay but for TEN PEOPLE not to show up makes me curious what else is going on. I wouldn’t attend if I’m not invited to someone’s wedding but I also wouldn’t lie and say I was going. That’s horrible!!
Post # 81
@meranda: I am so sorry this happened to you. 🙁 I would be very disappointed and upset if my friends gave me their word they would come, and didn’t show up. Have you addressed this situation with them yet ? I think you really should. Maybe not confront them about it, but you have every reason to be upset and you can tell them, exactly like you told us : it’s not about the gifts, but it’s their presence that would have been significant to you. Good luck and I hope you can sort this out with your friends.
Post # 82
People are SO annoying. This happens everytime I throw a babyshower, or child’s birthday. People don’t understand that if you RSVP you’d better get your ass there.
Post # 82
Oh my goodness…I am so sorry this happened. And I believe that yes indeed you have every right to be hurt by their actions. If someone RSVP’s that they will be there, they should honor that, unless of course some emergency comes up. But still….wow.