Post # 17
I’m so glad that you posted this.. I guess I didn’t realize how many of us are out there planning without the man who they loved first. I think its a delicate balance between a sweet rememberance and a second memorial. Lovely ideas gals, and I’m sure that I will be using some of these for my special day.
Post # 18
Hi- Don’t feel bad about skipping it altogether or letting them just do it alone. No one will know the difference or care.
Post # 19
We will not be doing a mother/son dance for my Fiance. While it may seem awkward in the planning, on the real day I think it will all flow. If you don’t want to dance with anyone else, you don’t have to, and it’s sweet that you’re honoring his memory like that. My Fiance said he’d just stay seated while my dad and I danced, then we’re transitioning to my mom and dad’s first song so they can start dancing right away and take the spotlight off my Fiance.
Post # 20
I will not be having a Father/Daughter dance at my wedding as well. My father passed away when I was 8 mo, and I feel the same way that it would be weird dancing with someone else. However, my Fiance was insistant on being able to dance with his mother. I’m looking at it as a great chance to sit down, take a break, and give him the spotlight for a moment.
Post # 21
My dad died 5 years ago when I was only 20, so I’m kind of stuck with figuring out what to do for the father/daughter dance. I know my Future Mother-In-Law wants to do the mother/son dance, and that’s fine.. but I’m torn between whether I should just skip the father/daughter dance, or if my mom and I should dance. My brother and I aren’t close and there’s no one who can take my dad’s place, so I don’t like the idea of dancing with a grandfather or an uncle, etc.
I think dancing with your mom would be okay. I don’t think anyone will look at it as being silly. If my mom and I do it, we’re going to try to keep it fun so that it doesn’t drag down the mood.
Post # 22
I’m struggling with the same thing – my brother and I are very close so we are doing a dance together in honor of our dad, who passed away when we were in high school.
Post # 23
I think that you need to tell your Future Mother-In-Law that having a dance with her son will make you feel uncomfortable because your father is not around (rest his soul)
What are her reasons for pushing for a mother/son dance? If she could feel your pain she would have no issue backing out of it.. because she could dance with her son anytime… not just on a wedding day in front of everyone.
My only other idea is someone piecing together s small video to music of photos of you and your father and playing it to a father/daughter dance and having it play after the mother son dance.. a nice way to reflect and still enjoy a song