(Closed) Nontraditional "ceremony" ideas??

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

First… for anyone who has been through the fiance visa process, anyone getting offended because you are having “two weddings” or are “tricking” people needs to back off.  My friends had to do this, and both their courthouse and real weddings were tons of fun!  Logistics are just more complicated when people from different countries marry a US citizen

My brother did marry a girl from Peru, and during the speeches one of her sisters translated from spanish to english / vice versa.  It was also a great way to involve her!

We didn’t do candles or sand or anything.  Instead we did a modified hand fasting. My Darling Husband and I each picked 3 values (honesty, strength, patience, etc) and 3 corresponding colored ribbons (6 in total).  During the ceremony our officiant read off each value and a brief statement on why it was important to us, while our Maid/Matron of Honor and best man laid the ribbons over our held hands.  We kept the ribbons on for the vows, but removed for the rings.  It was very unique, very us, and also the different colored ribbons looked beautiful in that setting!

Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think your ideas sound lovely! Congrats on your marriage!

We are also doing a similar hand fasting ceremony to PP. I’m not into the candles or sand. Look on Pinterest, there are Love Locks, planting a tree, a few cool ideas. You can also do an ‘Oathing stone’ a personalized rock that you hold when you say your vows…so they are set in stone. ๐Ÿ™‚

I watch 4 Weddings on TLC (guilty pleasure) and saw something a couple weeks ago where the family came up and surrounded the couple for a blessing. It was relly nice. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
23 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

I really like the idea of a ring blessing – where your rings go around and each person in attendance has a moment to send you well wishes/love etc for your wedding. I think it would be special because this is something that means more now that everyone is in attendance.

Post # 7
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We had our legal ceremony before our big wedding and we didn’t even have a good reason like you guys! Life is what it is and you just gotta do what you gotta do! 

We couldn’t pick any one officiant for ours so we just picked everyone we wanted involved and then had them all do a part (we didn’t do a bridesmaids/groomsmen), so if there’s anyone other than your dad who you’d like to be involved in the ceremony you could have a few readings etc. 

We chose not to do rings at our legal ceremony, partly because I wanted to save them for our big wedding, and partly because we custom ordered DH’s and it wasn’t ready yet ๐Ÿ˜‰ I really liked the idea of the ring warming but we got married beside a pond and I just wasn’t taking that risk! If you do it though you could send them around during the ceremony and then still have an ‘exchange’ of sorts. After they’ve been warmed you could get each others rings, quickly ‘warm’ them yourselves and then give to each other. https://www.officianteric.com/ring-warming/ has lots of examples of wording. I used that site extensively when writing our ceremony. 


Instead of the Ring Warming, due to aforementioned pond, we did community vows, which might be particularly suiting for you guys! This is the text we used:

Now, I ask that these friends and family stand,                                                                         And that you turn and acknowledge them, as they acknowledge you.

 As family and friends,                                                                                                            You form a community of support                                                                                          That surrounds Groom and Bride

Each of you, by your presence here today                                                                               Is being called upon                                                                                                             To uphold them in loving each other

 Always stand beside them,                                                                                                never between them                                                                                                            Offer them your love and your support                                                                                    Not your judgment

Encourage them when encouragement is needed                                                                     And listen to them when they ask for advice

In these ways, you can honor this marriage                                                                           In which they are joined today                                                                                          

If you agree to offer your love and support                                                                           To strengthen their marriage                                                                                               And honour this family created by their union                                                                       Please answer by saying : We do  

[Guests: We do]

Thank you, you may be seated.

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