- 10 years ago
My fiancé took me shopping for my engagement ring. We are blessed enough that he was able to give me a generous dollar amount that he felt comfortable putting towards my ring(s).
I have never wanted a traditional ring. My feeling was that I would rather have a smaller, simpler, more modern ring or rings, but would get the “best” in my price range. Not knowing much about modern wedding tradition, I asked for a half eternity ring setting for my engagement ring. (I wrote about this in another post.) I chose it myself, and I just love it. The stones are very high quality and they really sparkle. However, the style is more of a wedding band, even though I am wearing it as an engagement ring.
I didn’t think it would bother me, but a couple of people at work have commented about my “cute” ring or said it’s strange that I wouldn’t want a solitaire ring and made “whatever floats your boat” type comments. I feel the comments are a little bit demeaning and in fact, they are starting to bother me.
It seems strange to me that people don’t pay attention to the ring’s quality as much as they do the size. My ring may not be the most flashy, but the stones and the construction are top quality and gorgeous! It’s funny, because I was looking at a more expensive, flashier ring, but I thought people might find it garish…
If I had gotten a huge screamer of a honking ring,I wonder if I wouldn’t be fending off the snarky comments and jealous looks as well, which were what I was trying to avoid in the first place!
So I guess my question is, is my choice of a single half eternity ring that strange for an engagement ring? Should I get a second ring to be my wedding band (I do love rubies so maybe a tiny eternity band alternating diamonds and rubies)? Another option would be to get a screaming large moissanite “engagement” ring.
I don’t really want to cave to social pressure, but at the same time it doesn’t feel great to have people saying “aww cute” or looking quizzically at your beloved ring. I really was hoping that people would admire it as much as I do.
Budget is not really a problem, as I left several thousand dollars of our ring budget unspent. However, I feel strange walking around with that much money on a single finger, so if I did buy another sparkler, I think I would probably get moissanite or a gemstone.