Post # 1
I recently got engaged (last month) so I’m all excited and wanting to talk about wedding stuff. Every time I bring up the topic and start talking about ideas, it gets turned around to be about something else. I was talking to my sister (Maid of Honor), who is also a bridesmaid in her friends wedding in a few months. Every time I bring it up she starts talking about her friends wedding. It’s nice to hear other ideas, but I want to talk about OUR wedding for a little while, ya know? When I was talking to my other sister, she just talked about negative stuff from her wedding. I’ve been getting really frustrated with them because I can’t talk about my ideas for planning our wedding without all this other drama. I don’t want to be rude and selfish because they are family and I love them. I probably just needed to vent a little lol.It’s normal to want to talk about our wedding, right?
This website helps with it too because I can talk about wedding stuff all day long and ya’ll listen and reply:)
Post # 3
Ppl can be really insensitive sometimes. Like you said, bees always listen.
Post # 4
I understand, sometimes the Bee is good for advice, but it would be nice to talk about your wedding to people that actually know you.
Post # 5
do they feel negatively towards your fiancee, is it something they were opposed to> does he treat u bad? why would they be changing subject on you?
Post # 6
@LecheLady: Everyone loves my fiance, and they seem to be excited about us getting married. He treats me like a queen. He is absolutely wonderful. He even goes over to my momma’s house sometimes to play video games with my 10 year old brother.
I think my younger sister just doesn’t realize that she is doing that. She is just excited that she will be a bridesmaid in her friend’s wedding.
Heres the problem with my older sister: She eloped and married a guy that didn’t get along with the family. They had been off and on for years and he treated her horribly. (just to emphasize this point: after they got married and she got pregnant, he kicked her out to move in his new girlfriend. When my sister had his baby, he wanted her back, and she went back. Ugh. Douchebag.) So anyways, they had a reception a few weeks after they eloped (while me and my other sister had plans to go out of town already so we didn’t get to attend). They invited like 50 people to the reception and only about 10 came. However, it was really short notice.
So, when I was talking about planning the wedding, I said that Momma was looking into flower vendors for me. My sister just kept saying stuff about how I’m so lucky she was helping because she didn’t want to have anything to do with my sister’s wedding. (But they didnt even have a wedding!) And she was talking about how noone showed up and how noone helped them do anything. Then she said they wanted to have an anniversary party but noone would probably come and blah blah blah.
I just wanted to talk about plans for our wedding:( I didn’t want it to turn into this big ugly thing about how her husband doesn’t get along with our family:(
Post # 7
Well that bit about your sister’s wedding issues clears a lot up. People IRL don’t care as much about your wedding as you do to begin with (harsh, I know), and on top of that, it sounds like your sister has some bitterness towards her situation. It has to be hard to watch people have their fairy tale after living through her situation (totally her choice, I know, but still hard).
She really should suck it up, but I’d give it some time. She probably also thinks it’s helpful to talk about her friend’s wedding in a “Hey, I already have these ideas so you don’t have to worry about thinking about them,” kind of way.
Just keep posting here, you’ll get all the wedding chatter your little heart can stand 🙂
Post # 8
@bells219: Yeah it’s hard to keep remembering that noone cares about the wedding as much as I do lol. And she does have a lot of bitterness and it shows up every time I try to talk about it:(