- 2 months ago
I don’t even know where to start because this all seems like a huge rambling mess. So please bear with me!
My partner and I are both 25, and have our own apartment. We have been dating for 9 years, so we started dating when we 16. We met when we were 14, and there was an instant connection, and we have been talking everyday since. Since dating, we did move 2.5 hours away to attend an university but lived separate and with our own roommates. I wanted to add this bit of information in as it hasn’t always been in our hometown!
We went ring shopping in early June, and he ended up purchasing a ring the same day. That wasn’t the plan, we just both fell in love with a specific setting and had the main stone transferred over to our preferred setting. Since then, I’ve noticed our relationship was seen more tense, and smaller disagreements have popped up more frequently.
Without going into too much detail, is this typical for couples about to become formally engaged? We seem to disagree, or fight, about pretty trivial things when before, we never have. When I say fights, I mean disagreements. There’s no yelling, throwing things, slamming doors, etc. I may walk to another room to let myself think, but we don’t storm off and leave each other. The disagreements typically last 5 minutes, we make up, and then we’re back to laughing.
Another side note, he’s had the ring in his possession since the middle of July. And yes, I got impatient and asked what a timeline may look like now that he ha the ring. I wasn’t given a clear answer, but he told me he wanted to make it special. Which, I’m trying to understand as the proposal is also something for him as well. But I don’t plan to wait forever, and I made that clear.
I’m lost on this as we’ve been together for so long, and obviously, this has been my only adult relationship. I’m not sure if this is typical, or if this is something I should re-evaluate and determine if we entered the growing apart stage rather than growing together.
Basically, is this typical or is it time for a re-evaluation?