(Closed) Normal for bride and groom not to attend cocktail hour?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s totally normal, didn’t cocktail hours basically start so the guests had something to do while the bride and groom take pictures?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think most brides and grooms don’t attend cocktail hour and use that time for photos (excluding couples who choose to do a first look). My timeline will be 2:00 ceremony (hour maximum length), then cocktail hour starting at 6… so we might be able to attend ours, but I’m not actually planning on it.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah that should be fine, gives you time to make your grand entrance as Mr & Mrs 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, cocktail hours are to fill the time while the guests wait for the couple to be announced. If they were at the cocktail hour then they would have to leave again and re-enter for the reception to start.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We didn’t attend the cocktail hour and things went super smoothly. We liked that we didn’t have to worry about rushing to finish up photos (we did almost all of them before)–our guests were taken care of–having snacks and a drink really fills that time.

One thing I would *highly* recommend that I didn’t even think of: Have the servers set a plate with a couple of the appetizers on your table for you so you don’t miss out completely. We had figured on missing them, but it was such a great surprise to get to our table and have them there!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think I’ve ever attended a wedding where the B & G were at the cocktail hour which is one of the main reasons why we’re doing a first look. It’s totally acceptable to miss it but we don’t want to. We’re paying a lot of money for our cocktail hour and dammit, we’re gonna enjoy it!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah that should be fine, gives you time to make your grand entrance as Mr & Mrs 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s totally normal for the bride and groom to miss the cocktail hour… my Fiance and I planned our picture schedule so we could be there though.  I’ve been to weddings at our venue before and the cocktail hours are TO DIE FOR!  I’m pretty stoked about it LOL

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

uh oh sorry for the double post, slow computers..

Post # 11
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Honey bee

Not normal at all for the couple to skip the cocktail hour. Especially since everyone says that is the best food of the night, why offer food and drinks that you pick out based on your preferences and not partake at all?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@UpstateCait:  I agree!  Though I understand not wanting to do a first look.  Your guests came to see you and you spent a lot of money on cocktail hour so why not enjoy it?  And let your wedding party as well? 

If you get early with pictures please go and mingle with your guests!  They will enjoy getting a moment to talk with you they might not of gotten otherwise.  And no one will be thinking “why are they introducing them again?  I just saw them at cocktail hour?”  🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Ember78: Not sure what kind of wedding you have been too but the drinks and apps can be enjoyed by the bride and grrom during the reception. the coaktail hour was orginated so that guest could have something to do while photoa are being taken.

OP-it is perfectly normal for you not to attend! just make sure you eat something during that time! we are doing an hour and half coaktail hour because we arent taking pics at the venue and i have such a huge wedding party!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a wedding where we did enjoy the cocktail hour with the guests, but I thought it was kind of weird since all of the other weddings I have been to the BP was not present for the cocktail hour. I guess it just depends on the couple.

The one wedding I attended they had the BP taking pictures and once they were finished they went into a bridal suite where they enjoyed cocktails and appetizers just with the Bridal Party. I thought that was a great way for them to enjoy the time with their Bridal Party and still get to eat!

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