Post # 1
I know everyone has their own definition of “average” price ranges…but what is the general gift or gift price range for bridal parties?
My FSIL’s FH just got his groomsmen gifts from a jewlery store. He spent $180 on each Michael Kors watch for 10 of his men.
Future Sister-In-Law is now searching in NYC and abroad for her perfect gift choice for her girls..I can just see it being about the same price and can’t help but think that’s what I’m supposed to spend!
I have 5 girls as of right now. I want it to be something they can use, cherish, have and think of my wedding, but it doesn’t have to be some designer watch or gold encrusted piece of jewelry right?
I know I have a few months for this, but since i’m planning my wedding “side by side” with Future Sister-In-Law (who gets married in Sept),….I get ideas in my head early!
Just an FYI, my fiance and I make a decent amount of $$ together. We could afford to a little beyond and get something extra special, but is it necessary?
Post # 3
I think it all depends on your budget – and whether or not you asked your bridesmaids to do a ton of work leading up to your wedding. I’m still a year out, so I haven’t thought about this a ton, but I think I’ll probably be spending in the $50 range for each member of my wedding party. I’m also not asking them to do a whole lot besides buy the dress I ask them to buy and show up looking pretty on the wedding day. If I was asking them to throw parties and do a bunch of DIY projects with me and get their hair and makeup done professionally, I’d probably bump my budget up accordingly.
I was in my brother’s wedding last year and our bridesmaids gifts were a monogrammed tote bag, a bottle of Arbor Mist “wine” and a necklace that the bride’s mom made for us to wear at the wedding. I thought that was totally perfect and appropriate, and probably around $40 or $50. (Though I would have preferred a bottle of real wine to the Arbor Mist! Lol.)
Post # 4
grooms men got 50 cigar gifts. and 65 dollar fadora hat. our pianoist got a an amazing grace jewerly music box for 40 with shipping. my girls got a frame -10 bucks, 55 dollar custom made neckalace and earrings or bracelet depending on the girl. i had also given them a goody box after myshower that was 40-100 dollars woth of stuff inside. plus candy bouquets for the night before.
Post # 5
@BellaDee: Woww that sounds like it’s on the high side to me. Our wedding party hasn’t been too helpful in wedding planning – even my two MOH’s live 2000 miles away so they won’t be able to help with anything until the day before the wedding. So, we are spending about $50 on each Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen. I’m not sure what we’ll buy the Groomsmen for presents (there are 5 GMs), but for the BMs I have already bought them nice monogrammed robes, and Kate Spade earrings.
Post # 6
Also, my Fiance and I make plenty of money… We just haven’t gotten much help so don’t feel like it’s necessary to spend a TON of money on gifts. Our parents have been more helpful so we’re getting both sets of parents packages at a bed & breakfast in Texas Hill Country.
But if your girls have been more involved and you want to treat them, you could pay for their mani/pedis and hair and makeup for the wedding, I think that’s a really nice gesture for brides to do.
Post # 7
I originally planned to give ~$75-100 each for my 3 gals, but after my fiance splurged ($125 for his 4 guys plus a yet-to-be-determined but likely $200+ for his brother, best man), I increased mine to $125 to match. All told, we spent about 3 times the “recommended” amount in gifts for family, bridal party, and guests. (Excluding favors, which were a wedding gift.) I wish we had reigned it in more, however, we did so in part because we wanted to know they were important to us…and I think in part because we felt it was expected at our ages. I don’t like the peer pressure to spend – I worked hard to keep the wedding on budget through negotiations and deal hunting, but we didn’t think people would understand if we correspondingly cut back on gifts. There’s unfortunately a certain expectation that varies by age, region, and wedding budget.
ETA: Our peeps are largely long distance, so we didn’t have help with much.
Post # 8
I am looking to spend right around $50 each for 5 BMs, probably get them a nice bracelet they can have as a keepsake. Plus I got them each little $5 keychains to say thank you for buying your Bridesmaid or Best Man dress already. I’m not asking them to do much–basically just buy a $120 Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and show up to the wedding (so far). I was just a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the wedding where the bride seemed to spend about $10 on each of our thank you gifts (a makeup bag with travel toiletry bottles inside), so $50 seems downright extravagant by comparison!
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your advice!!! I actually just came up with the greatest idea!
I found these kimono silk robes from VS for $49.50 AND THEY HAVE MY WEDDING COLORS! I think I will be ordering them each a bright purple Kimono. Also, I plan to get them a personalized hanger (this is also great for pictures!)
3rd from the right
Kind of like this:
I think this will be so awesome to utilize for our pictures, as well as a useful and comfy gift for them and for the day of to relax while getting ready!
I will be wearing a white “Bride” silk robe from VS as well. I chose not to personalize their robes because then it will be something they would wear more often, what do you think of not personalizing theirs??
I want to think of one other thing to get them, maybe a bottle of something, or a statement necklace for their dress (when I pick it)
What do you guys think?
Post # 10
So far I’ve spent $110 on my BM’s (bought their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, which are dresses they picked out themselves, cute flowy sun dresses since we are getting married in Jamaica) and I will be buying them thier sandals to wear with their dresses (about $35-$40) Fiance is spending around the same ($150) on his groomsmen. We figured its only fair because they are spending $1650 to come to Jamaica for the wedding……Every situation is different but this is what we decided on……
Post # 11
Fiance spent 8-20 per groomsman on cool knives. (6 GM)
I asked my sister to make personalized purses which I would value at $50 because they’re handmade. In turn my sister is doing this as a wedding gift for me. She’s my Maid/Matron of Honor, so for her gift I am taking her to the spa the week before the wedding and I’m paying for a manicure for her and my mother. I’m also giving them a bath and body works gift sets (which I got at the semi annual sale for cheap)
Most of my bridesmaids haven’t done anything for me. Four live far away. I didn’t make them buy expensive dresses, I just asked them to pick somehting out they could afford in a shade of pink. My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning my bachelorette and helped plan the shower. The two other Bridesmaid or Best Man who live in the area just show up to parties. One of them went dress shopping with me.
Post # 12
I think it really just depends on your budget and what you’re comfortable with. I don’t think there’s a “normal” amount or an amount you should feel like you’re supposed to spend. I’m spending about $200 on each girl but that’s after paying to have their hair done, which I don’t consider part of the gift. My Fiance spent a little over $300 on each which was a nice suit for each plus the tie for the wedding.
Post # 13
@BellaDee: Ohh those are fabulous! I’m totally going to borrow your idea! 😉
Post # 14
I paid just under 20 gbp on an Etsy bracelet with their initial and birthstone for each bridesmaid. I didn’t spend much because we can’t afford it and they haven’t done anything for the wedding since they live far away!
Post # 15
Wow, I feel bad – my BMs are getting abath/shower set and an engraved silver bracelet. We don’t have the money for much more. A lot of the PPs are spending on one Bridesmaid or Best Man than we are on thewedding dress lol!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge
I will be spending about $50 on a necklace and maybe some smaller items.
Although it’s tempting to buy your BMs tons of stuff because you see many other people on the web do that, I don’t think there’s any tradition to back this up. Since when are brides obligated to buy their BMs tons of stuff because they’re in the wedding party? Your friends know what agreeing to the position of a Bridesmaid or Best Man entails. A wedding is not a kid’s birthday party.