(Closed) North Jersey brides: Simple cocktail hour?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

i was just recently at a wedding like this in upstate ny, where there was a HUGE feast for cocktail hour.  to be honest, i seemed a little overwhelming and i was soooo full before dinner.  it was nice, don’t get me wrong, but it was just unnecessary.  i personally prefer a simple cocktail hour with passed hors d’oeuvres, and maybe a cheese/fruit platter.

Post # 4
30 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

A simple cocktail hour is lovely and what I’m going to do.  I went to one of those large multi station cocktail hour wedding last year in NJ and while at first it’s impressive, it makes you feel guilty because when you actually sit down for dinner you can’t eat it because you’re too full!  Perhaps instead of a plated dinner you could do multiple stations to get that feel?  Also if your mom is disappointed not to have a full on feast for the cocktail hour feel free to let her know that if she desires it she’s welcome to pay for it.Smile

Post # 5
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I just stumbled on this post somehow but I get how you are feeling – I am from North Jersey and all the cocktail hours in NJ/NY/LI are massive.  I honestly think they are way over the top and kind of a waste.  But I know a lot of people are used to that.

My venue’s base price was already really expensive and the cocktail hour only included 8 passed hors d’oeuvres. I splurged and got a cheese/crudite station (seriously, how is that not indcluded?)

I was worried it might look a little spare (and cheap), but I really don’t think that is the case – I am sure everyone had enough, and really no one needs a cocktail hour so huge that you can’t eat your dinner.  I always get overwhlemed by all the choices and eat too much! I don’t think anyone missed it.  The quality of the food is much more important. Our dinner was excellent and everybody got to enjoy it.  I think we made the right choice.

Post # 6
77 posts
Worker bee

This is one of the reasons I’m so glad I’ve gone to so many weddings. Experience in this case is golden.

I personally think NJ CCs over do it a bit with the cocktail hour food. While certainly it’s appreciated in the moment right after the ceremony (when you wanna get your munch on), I’ve always overstuffed myself to the point of misery during these types of cocktail hours. I mean, you get pasta, sushi, carving station, etc. etc. and also fill up on drinks. By the time the three course dinner comes, I can’t even look at it. I’ve never had more than 2-3 bites, ever! And we’re talking fancy cod, filet mignon, etc. That’s why I feel like most wedding food is such a waste!

For our cocktail hour, we are being much more traditional with just drinks and passed hors d’oeuvres. Then we’ll have the dinner afterwards. We don’t want to waste money, yet we want our dinner to be enjoyable and somewhat memorable. I say nix the over-the-top buffet cocktail hour. I can’t think of a single person who can restrain themselves enough at the cocktail hour that they actually enjoy dinner later! As long as your guests are fed one way or another, they won’t really care.

The topic ‘North Jersey brides: Simple cocktail hour?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors