- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
i was just wondering how to deal with a person who thinks he/she’s an expert in everyone else’s lives, while his/her own is quite a mess. let me give you my example.
ETA: if you take your time to read this, please forgive my typos and mixed up sentences, i am feeling way too emotional right now.
so, it’s the girl i’ve known for almost ten years, let’s call her Maggie. when we were younger, Maggie had lots of close friends. although she’s 7 years older than me, i thought i could turn to her if something went wrong and get some good advice or at least a shoulder to cry on, and i was ready to be there for her. i’m sure her other friends thought same.
lately i’ve noticed something extremely unhealthy is going on with this person. at the moment she’s 30, single, had one crappy 2-year relationship experience, but thinks she has the right to judge everyone else’s family and love life. it’s like, Maggie can “give advice” to a happily married girl, whose husband once came home dizzy from a party with coworkers, that she should run away from that alcoholic before it’s too late. or this: one of Maggie’s male friends started a relationship with a woman who had two children. that woman got pregnant from him (after they got engaged, but who cares). so Maggie started blabbering that “the chick was playing a cook and mrs clean in front of him and then got knocked up just to have somewhere to live” and someday the guy will be miserable for letting her and her children into the house. and she never forgot to add – “i am not teaching anyone how to live, but…” (yes you are, dumbass.)
well, today was the last straw. i found out that the b*tch was telling literally everyone she knows that i am a fool for being with my SO, because:
1. he didn’t get a degree and therefore he’s primitive
2. a relationship with him makes me primitive too (after i told her i’m indifferent to politics and religion whatsoever – i’m an agnostic and i think political games are above my understanding)
3. he doesn’t make an incredible amount of money at work
4. he listens to “music for idiots” (metal) and wears “weird clothes”, all of that is “just to show off”
of course, i have to “grow up” to see that all or i will deeply regret in the future.
seriously, after 1o years i feel like i’ve never known that person and i’m totally let down. i am completely sure i’m gonna have a trust issue after this. i can’t believe something like that can be happening in her head at all. now i’m struggling between having a serious talk with her and simply punching her in the face. it’s just so freaking ridiculous. what the hell do i do?
ok bees, vent over. if you read it, please feel free to respond. maybe some of you had an experience of dealing with a …(can’t find a nice word for that, let’s just call it a “nosy” person), but simple virtual hugs are also welcome.