(Closed) nosy b*tches. *long, vent*

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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233 posts
Helper bee

@linssi: I would call her a pass remarkable person,ie someone who has something to say about everything and everyone even when their opinion hasn’t been asked for and is usually negative.

I  feel sorry for her,if she had a life and relationship of her own she wouldn’t have so much time on her hands to be judging everyone else’s.

I would limit my interaction with her or end the friendship altogether unless it enhances your life. If not you don’t need it.  

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

-big hugs- i am so sorry, this ‘friend’ sounds awful, just know that she is wrong, and you and your SO are right for each other, and a degree is not required to have a successful career and happy life!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

She sounds like a judgmental snob.  Try to distance yourself from her and turn to friends that are more positive!  People like that can only bring you down.  And don’t feel badly that you didn’t see this sooner, people change over time!

If it’s really important to you to stay friends with this girl, then talk to her and tell her how she sounds and how it makes you feel.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

It sounds like she is a truly unhappy person and there is nothing you could say or do that would change that. The focus and judgment she passes onto others is likely a defense mechanism – if she’s focusing on everyone else and what she perceives to be their short-comings, she’s not focused on herself. Lots of people look outward instead of inward when they are unhappy. Just know that you can’t change her, she has to change herself. And until she does, it sounds like she isn’t going to be able to be a very good friend.

I’m inclined to say (without truly understanding the depth of the friendship) that you should distance yourself and limit your interactions with her.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

((HUGS))   Wow, this person has issues!  I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with her betrayal.  It sounds as though she may have some jealousy towards you that you’re in a happy relationship and she isn’t.  Don’t let her get you down!   

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Defriend her and move on with your life— life is too short ot have people like her in it!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@armychica06:  <


Completely agree!!!  {{{HUGS}}}

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I had a friend like this – it seemed as if every time we got together she never had anything positive to say about anyone in our circle of friends, or if she did it would immediately be followed with a zinger of negativity.  It was sad and I am sure I am one who was talked about when I was in my whirlwind last fall of finding work and moving to another state to be with SO. 

Let her go.  When people like that look around and find themselves alone, they’ll figure out why soon enough, but by then it will be too late.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People disgust me. I cannot think of any circumstance where it is OK to talk behind a close friend’s back. Even if all of these things that she has said about you and your SO are true-so what? Why talk about it in a negative way? Why is she friends with you if her opinion of you and SO are so low? This person needs the boot, NOW! She is toxic, and deserves to be left alone. Obviously no one is an expert in life- but as people we can offer advice and comfort to others that are in the same positions/ share experiences that we have. What she is doing is offensive and rude and you deserve to be treated better. As the old saying goes “you don’t need enemies with a friend like that”

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Sometimes, you just need to let people like this go if you can. My best friend of 10 years was like this, and the final straw was when I got my own apartment, and instead of her being happy for me, she bitched and moaned that now I would live even farther away from her. I understand she was just jealous and handled it badly, but you don’t need negative people like that draining the life out of you like that.

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