Post # 1
So, I have a cousin who just moved a state away and she wanted to come to the wedding (I heard of it through my mom)… so I messaged her about it through facebook (since that’s how we usually keep in contact) and she never said anything back… that was a few weeks ago. I’m getting married on Saturday and I just noticed yesterday that my nosy aunt asked her on facebook if she was coming to the wedding and she said she wanted to but she didn’t think there was enough room (remember-I’ve never even talked to her directly) and so I added to the comments that it was just too close to the day to add anyone but I’d love for her to come visit me this summer or come to the ceremony since that is not per person… then my aunt said “DONT WORRY ABOUT IT JUST COME DOWN ANYWAYS! I”M SURE SOMEONE WONT SHOW AND YOU COULD TAKE THEIR PLACE.” Has anyone else had problems with family putting their big noses in wedding business? None of our parents are even paying for the wedding so it’s not like anyone but us should even feel like they have a say in things… especially not my aunt. ugh. :/ This just made me furious.
Post # 3
Oh my goodness, that is so out of line!
It’s not your aunt’s place to be inviting people for you and although this is OBVIOUS to you, perhaps someone like your mom can expain to your aunt that this isn’t feasible.
Post # 4
I sent my cousin a message and my mom is going to deal with my aunt… but its funny because after talking to my mom she said she already explained it was too late to add anyone… so I’m not sure what my aunt was thinking. That’s just kind of her personality… I don’t really care for this particular aunt in general and my mom knows it which is why she needs to talk to her and not me, because I will not be as nice about it. lol The funny thing is the cousin isn’t even her daughter, it’s her neice. My cousin’s mom would have never pulled this…
Post # 5
That’s awkward! Who does that!? Some people think they know better… ALWAYS. But these are the ones who are always farthest from reality!
Post # 6
Aw, its crappy that she did that.. esp after you had just said that it was too late to add her.
Post # 7
Man, that’s so bad!! Families are the worst about this stuff.
My cousin’s husband just asked my Mom if they could invite a friend for their 18 year old daughter that I invited. I’m irked because, why couldn’t my cousin just ask me? I sent out the invites and everyone knows I’m paying. Ugh.
Post # 8
I know this sounds awful but I was just telling my mom the other day that we are doing this wedding for us, noone else. If it weren’t for the fact that I wanted to have my life-long friend be my maid of honor, have my nephew put on a suit and be my ring bearer, dance with my daddy, see my mom smile at me as I walk down the aisle, dance like an idiot with my friends and profess my love to my soul mate in front of everyone we care about than we would have just eloped because I could really care less if it was important to anyone else that we had a real wedding… it was important to me. period. THIS IS NOT A FAMILY REUNION OR A PARTY- IT IS OUR WEDDING DAY! I invited my aunt, uncles cousins etc to be nice. Some of them I really wanted there and some of them I invited because I felt rude excluding them. I WILL NOT feel bad for telling someone I didn’t invite or who didn’t RSVP… “No, you can’t come.” I know I will have a good time regardless… I offer that same advice to other brides because if you let one friend of a friend or one last-minute date come than someone else will find out and ask then you feel obligated to say yes to them too. This day is about you and your future husband. Do what makes the two of you happy… especially if you are footing the bill! 🙂