(Closed) Not a baby person, visiting a family with a baby (etiquette question)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
Member
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If they offer, just laugh and say something along the lines of “Oh, thank you so much – he’s just precious but I’m all thumbs and I’m terrified of holding tiny babies!” 

I doubt they’ll insist after that!

Post # 4
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t see why you can’t say no to holding a baby.  I think they would prefer the baby being held by someone who knows how to hold it instead of someone who doesn’t and is uncomfortable around babies.

Post # 5
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1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am sure if you said ” I am sorry, he is a real sweetie, but I am just not comfortable holding new babies” or something along those lines they won’t be mad or pressure you. I know I wouldn’t pressure someone who said they were nervous to hold my newborn 🙂 

Post # 6
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m uncomfortable around any baby except for my own, so I can understand. I’m not a baby person at all. If they offer, just say ‘no thank you’. I know it sounds awkward, but I don’t think they would fault you for it. The only time I’ve ever offered someone to hold my daughter is when they obviously want to, such as my Mother-In-Law, mother, or SILs. The only other time is when someone (obviously someone I know) asks to hold her.

I know how strange it is. My Maid/Matron of Honor basically plopped her 6 week old in my lap when I saw her once. I just kind of sat there like ‘what am I supposed to do?’ until she took him back. Even when I saw her son about 4 months later, I never asked to hold him, and she didn’t offer. I think she knew I was uncomfortable with it.

Post # 8
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Wannabee

I understand EXACTLY how you feel. I’m the same way, I’m also NOT a baby person and never understood the whole hub bub about babies. I’ve refused plenty of times to hold newborns, all I’ve said was no that I wasn’t comfortable holding newborns (still haven’t held one in my life time and I am only 21) no matter who’s baby it is. My family understands this, and friends have been good about it which I appreciate. As for my boyfriend, he understands that I’m uncomfortable holding newborns but doesn’t understand why I dislike babies so much. If I had a newborn or a baby and someone refused to hold my baby, I would understand and tell them of what I was like (IF I ever have a baby). When you honestly think about it, which would you rather? Someone hold the baby and be uncomfortable the whole time holding the baby? Or, someone hold the baby and be comfortable and relaxed about it?

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