(Closed) Not a gay couple…but it shouldn’t matter if we are!!!

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 17
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

as much as im for gay marriages i also think its ok for people that oppose it to have their opinions. as much as i dont understand why they feel that way,  i do believe that other poeple have the right to say they dont believe in homosexuality or gay marriage and not be burned at the stake for it

Post # 18
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5667 posts
Bee Keeper

@eloping: Sure, they’re entitled to their beliefs, as we are entitled to ours. We have the choice whether or not we support bigotry and I, for one, would prefer to avoid supporting people that act in such a reprehensible (IMO) fashion.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That is horrible. It’s probably too late to cancel. I think if that happened to me I would be in shock at first so canceling wouldn’t be my first thought but it sure would’ve been my second thought.

People should be entitled to their opinions but there sure is people I rather not help in my job but just because I don’t agree with them doesn’t give me the right to refuse service to them. it’s mind boggling when companies rather lose money over things like this.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I’d like to think I’d cancel the order but in the pressure of the moment I may just say ok and then realise, like you, WTF, after I hung up. If you can, I’d ring back and cancel.

Post # 21
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@eloping: Hmm. I like your openness but this raised a thought with me. I know people are entitled to their opinions, but when does an opinion cross the line to homophobia, racism, etc. Does this mean other people are also entitled to their opinion that foreigners shouldn’t take job positions in countries that aren’t theirs, or that women shouldn’t hold certain (relationship or career) positions?

If a persons opinion on gay marriage is that it isn’t for them, that’s one thing. But to project it into your business changes it from ‘opinion’ to discrimination… for me at least.

 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I completely agree!

Post # 23
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d call them back, cancel my order, and tell them it’s because I don’t “support that kind of business usually.” I’d also call the Better Business Bureau and a chapter of an LGBT rights organization local to the business and let them know.

Post # 24
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151 posts
Blushing bee

That is sad and terrible 🙁  It’s true that business owners have the right to feel how they want and serve the customers they want, but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be condemned for their prejudice.

I know nobody around the Bee likes the word ‘judge’, but I will come right out and say that I judge people like that business owner because their opinions are in opposition to the human right to love who we love.  Yes, this is a free country, but it works both ways.  It’s only fair that we can post about how we would choose not to support business holding such an opinion.

Things will never change if people complacently allow hate and bigotry to continue unopposed.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would seriously call back if I were you. Even if it is too late to cancel your order, you can at least express your displeasure and hopefully make the owner feel embarrassed. Imagine if you were actually a gay couple, trying to plan this important and joyful day, and a stranger (who you were trying to give your money!) makes you feel rejected and humiliated. She needs to either suck it up and run her company like a professional business, or make it SUPER clear on her website that she is a bigot so everyone can stay away. 

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

There’s no way that I would have given that company my money. By doing business with them, you’re telling them that it’s okay for them to discriminate against same sex couples when it is NOT. If they want to be that way in their everyday lives then whatever but as a business, you really have to remain impartial and check your personal feelings at the door.

Post # 27
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1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That’s not even legal in most states! Ugh.

Post # 28
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1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

WOW! That is unbelievable. I also would have cancelled, and probably repiled, “I don’t support companies that are that ignorant. Sorry. I’ll be going elsewhere.” I agree that you should tell everyone the name – companies that ignorant should definitely be avoided. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ThunderBunny:

It’s true that business owners have the right to feel how they want and serve the customers they want,

Actually, that’s not true. Business owners can’t legally refuse to serve black people or Jewish people or people in wheelchairs. It’s sad that in some ass backward states, they’re still legally allowed to refuse to serve people based on sexual orientation.

(BTW, OP, do you happen to know which state the business is located in? Because if it’s one of the ones where discriminating against gay people is illegal, I’d be adding a few more calls to my list…)

Post # 30
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151 posts
Blushing bee

@Elvis:

some ass backward states

 

Of which Indiana is probably one 🙁  I work in the field, and I have this dinky, dirty little hick bar in a diverse neighborhood that has a sign on the door that says ‘No Colors’…I always wondered if they could do that legally.

Thanks for setting me straight!

 

ETA: I have just been informed that ‘No Colors’ does not mean what I thought it meant.  Shows how much life experience I have, lol.  Please disregard 🙂

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