Post # 17
as much as im for gay marriages i also think its ok for people that oppose it to have their opinions. as much as i dont understand why they feel that way, i do believe that other poeple have the right to say they dont believe in homosexuality or gay marriage and not be burned at the stake for it
Post # 18
@eloping: Sure, they’re entitled to their beliefs, as we are entitled to ours. We have the choice whether or not we support bigotry and I, for one, would prefer to avoid supporting people that act in such a reprehensible (IMO) fashion.
Post # 19
That is horrible. It’s probably too late to cancel. I think if that happened to me I would be in shock at first so canceling wouldn’t be my first thought but it sure would’ve been my second thought.
People should be entitled to their opinions but there sure is people I rather not help in my job but just because I don’t agree with them doesn’t give me the right to refuse service to them. it’s mind boggling when companies rather lose money over things like this.
Post # 20
I’d like to think I’d cancel the order but in the pressure of the moment I may just say ok and then realise, like you, WTF, after I hung up. If you can, I’d ring back and cancel.
Post # 21
@eloping: Hmm. I like your openness but this raised a thought with me. I know people are entitled to their opinions, but when does an opinion cross the line to homophobia, racism, etc. Does this mean other people are also entitled to their opinion that foreigners shouldn’t take job positions in countries that aren’t theirs, or that women shouldn’t hold certain (relationship or career) positions?
If a persons opinion on gay marriage is that it isn’t for them, that’s one thing. But to project it into your business changes it from ‘opinion’ to discrimination… for me at least.
Post # 23
I’d call them back, cancel my order, and tell them it’s because I don’t “support that kind of business usually.” I’d also call the Better Business Bureau and a chapter of an LGBT rights organization local to the business and let them know.
Post # 24
That is sad and terrible 🙁 It’s true that business owners have the right to feel how they want and serve the customers they want, but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be condemned for their prejudice.
I know nobody around the Bee likes the word ‘judge’, but I will come right out and say that I judge people like that business owner because their opinions are in opposition to the human right to love who we love. Yes, this is a free country, but it works both ways. It’s only fair that we can post about how we would choose not to support business holding such an opinion.
Things will never change if people complacently allow hate and bigotry to continue unopposed.
Post # 25
I would seriously call back if I were you. Even if it is too late to cancel your order, you can at least express your displeasure and hopefully make the owner feel embarrassed. Imagine if you were actually a gay couple, trying to plan this important and joyful day, and a stranger (who you were trying to give your money!) makes you feel rejected and humiliated. She needs to either suck it up and run her company like a professional business, or make it SUPER clear on her website that she is a bigot so everyone can stay away.
Post # 26
There’s no way that I would have given that company my money. By doing business with them, you’re telling them that it’s okay for them to discriminate against same sex couples when it is NOT. If they want to be that way in their everyday lives then whatever but as a business, you really have to remain impartial and check your personal feelings at the door.
Post # 27
That’s not even legal in most states! Ugh.
Post # 28
WOW! That is unbelievable. I also would have cancelled, and probably repiled, “I don’t support companies that are that ignorant. Sorry. I’ll be going elsewhere.” I agree that you should tell everyone the name – companies that ignorant should definitely be avoided.
Post # 29
It’s true that business owners have the right to feel how they want and serve the customers they want,
Actually, that’s not true. Business owners can’t legally refuse to serve black people or Jewish people or people in wheelchairs. It’s sad that in some ass backward states, they’re still legally allowed to refuse to serve people based on sexual orientation.
(BTW, OP, do you happen to know which state the business is located in? Because if it’s one of the ones where discriminating against gay people is illegal, I’d be adding a few more calls to my list…)
Post # 30
some ass backward states
Of which Indiana is probably one 🙁 I work in the field, and I have this dinky, dirty little hick bar in a diverse neighborhood that has a sign on the door that says ‘No Colors’…I always wondered if they could do that legally.
Thanks for setting me straight!
ETA: I have just been informed that ‘No Colors’ does not mean what I thought it meant. Shows how much life experience I have, lol. Please disregard 🙂
Post # 31
UPDATE: This company is a friend of a friend who runs a business out of her home. She makes handmade items for weddings, quincineras, parties, etc. When she said the comment at first, I was like “No, the order is correct with two male names; that’s how I want it.” I was called while out running errands, and I was just in a hurry to get things settled and be done with it.
Then afterwards, a couple hours later, as I replayed the conversation in my head, I realized what she was saying. “My company doesn’t support that kind of business usually.” Meaning what? She just has not had a lot of LGBT service or she actively tried not to do business with the LGBT community??
So I emailed my friend who recommended the company. I asked her what she thought the owner was implying. She says she isn’t aware of her having any prejudice, but it might make her uncomfortable as she is from a much older generation.
Since I already placed my order, and she is a friend of a friend, I’m going to let her finish my favors. But when they’re done, I’m going over to pick them up myself and have a talk with this lady. If she truly doesn’t know any better, then someone needs to fill her in. I have two lesbians as my bridesmaids (they are married to each other), and I would not feel comfortable having not said anything. If she’s not responsive to my advice, I’m going to write a horrible review to warn everyone on here.